Why Stand For Marriage Restoration
When making the decision to stand for the restoration of our marriages, the first and most important question is why we’re standing, because unless we’re standing for the right reason, we won’t have the grace and power it requires. While this may sound harsh, standing for our marriages just because we love our husbands and miss them and want them back isn’t good enough and if that’s what motivates us, the chance of marriage restoration is not good. The ONLY motive for standing for marriage restoration that adequately equips us for all the trials and storms we’ll face is the unshakable belief that it is God’s will, and our decision and commitment to do so for the sake of obedience to Him. That’s why I encourage every woman dealing with separation or divorce to spend time studying the Bible and praying and fasting to hear from God regarding the restoration of her marriage.
If we’re not motivated by obedience to the Lord, we’re not likely to make the changes required in ourselves to make lasting marriage restoration possible, and with any other motivation, it’s too easy to get discouraged and give up. James 4:3 tells us how important our motives are, because it says When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. So before deciding to stand for marriage restoration, it is critically important to seek the Lord’s will so we know without a doubt that the Lord wants us to stand for our marriage, and that there are NO other options if we want to be obedient. Obedience, based on what His word tells us, is the only foundation strong enough to withstand all that the devil will bring against us, as seen in these verses in Matthew 7:
24 “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock.
25 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.
26 But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand.
27 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.” So be sure the foundation on which you’re standing for the restoration of your marriage is obedience to the Lord, and that it’s based on what His word says about marriage, divorce and remarriage.