What It Takes To Win The War
Everyone standing for marriage restoration can recall all to well that devastating moment when we had to face the fact that our marriages were in serious trouble, or over according to our Spouses. In those initial moments, and for a time to follow, we experienced feelings of shock, rejection, betrayal, unbearable pain, anger, bitterness, resentment, and no doubt a sense of total helplessness, and probably even hopelessness. Obviously, since you’re reading this, you’ve finally decided not to give up on your marriage, and to fight for it, so now it’s important to find out what it takes to win the war!
Fortunately, you’ve already taken the most difficult step, which IS recognizing and coming to terms with your own inability to do anything to bring about the restoration of your marriage, and that without the Lord’s help, it is impossible. So the next step is BELIEVING what Jesus told us in Matthew 19:26, which says Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” When we finally understand that, we experience the first glimmer of hope, and then we have to “seek” the Lord as we’re told in Psalm 105:2-4, which says Sing to him, sing praise to him; tell of all his wonderful acts. Glory in his holy name; let the hearts of those who seek the LORD rejoice. Look to the LORD and his strength; seek his face always. And it’s critically important that we NEVER forget the “ALWAYS” part, and the Lord’s promise in Deuteronomy 4:29, But if from there you seek the LORD your God, you will find him if you look for him with all your heart and with all your soul. And Jeremiah 29:13 promises, You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. Then In Luke 11:9, Jesus promised “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. The following verses are just a few that demonstrate why we have to seek the Lord:
Proverbs 29:26
Many seek an audience with a ruler, but it is from the LORD that man gets justice.
Psalm 34:10
The lions may grow weak and hungry, but those who seek the LORD lack no good thing.
Psalm 22:26
The poor will eat and be satisfied; they who
seek the LORD will praise him— may your hearts live forever!
Proverbs 8:17
I love those who love me, and those who seek me find me.
Psalm 9:10
Those who know your name will trust in you, for you, LORD, have never forsaken those who seek you.
1 Chronicles 28:9
“And you, my son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the LORD searches every heart and understands every motive behind the thoughts. If you seek him, he will be found by you; but if you forsake him, he will reject you forever.
2 Chronicles 15:2
He went out to meet Asa and said to him, “Listen to me, Asa and all Judah and Benjamin. The LORD is with you when you are with him. If you seek him, he will be found by you, but if you forsake him, he will forsake you.
Lamentations 3:25-26
The LORD is good to those whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him; it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the LORD.
Hosea 10:12
Sow for yourselves righteousness, reap the fruit of unfailing love, and break up your unplowed ground; for it is time to seek the LORD, until he comes and showers righteousness on you.
Psalm 40:16
But may all who seek you rejoice and be glad in you; may those who love your salvation always say, “The LORD be exalted!”
Matthew 6:33
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
And Finally, one of my favorite verses, which is SO important for us to grab hold of and hang onto as we stand for the restoration of our marriages is Jeremiah 33:3 (AMP), which says Call to Me and I will answer you and show you great and mighty things, fenced in and hidden, which you do not know (do not distinguish and recognize, have knowledge of and understand).
Seeking the Lord and understanding our biblical roles as husbands and wives through His Word is the first and most important step when we find ourselves in a spiritual battle to save or restore our marriages. So it’s up to us to seek the wisdom and guidance we need when standing for the restoration of our marriages by reading and studying our Bibles and through the counsel of those God has anointed to provide biblical encouragement and instruction. And if we’re not willing to take the time to do our part, we have NO reason to expect the Lord to do His part because forsaking His Word and ways is no different than forsaking Him.
I just read this and I have total faith that God is working in my life. However, my wife, formerly the spiritual leader in our home, has moved away from God and I am now praying for her at least two or three times a day.God’s timing is always perfect and HIS will is always perfect.I thank you for the encouraging website and information, and I ask for your prayers in my life, my wife’s, and our two children’s lives for our marriage to be restored and for our family to be whole again.
David, I’m so glad the site has provided some encouragement for you as you stand on the power and promise of God’s Word for the full and complete restoration of your marriage and family. And be encouraged, because if your wife knows the Lord, He will not let her stray too far! As the Word says, He will leave the flock of ninety-nine to go after that one lost sheep and bring him or her back! Read Hosea 2; I think it will encourage you to know that that is exactly what God will do for your wife, who He loves even more than you do. So just keep your focus on him and what He wants to do in you and He will take care of the rest. And perhaps you will consider joining the FAM fellowship so you can get to know other men and women in the same situation and be encouraged by the word of their testimonies as you grow in your own walk and relationship with the Lord. We are truly blessed with a wonderful group of men and women who genuinely love and care for each other and who are all seeking a closer walk with the Lord. Thanks again and may the Lord bless you and your family!
Dear Lord, we know that You HATE divorce and marital separation, so we thank You now for the work of restoration you are doing in David’s heart, mind, spirit, life and marriage. and we thank You that You ALWAYS complete the good work You have begun. Lord, his beloved wife was once the spiritual leader in this family and now she has gone astray, so we thank you for the assurance we have in Your Word that You will pursue her and bring her back into right relationship with you and back into right relationship with her husband. And we thank you for putting it on David’s heart to stand on the power and promise of your Word for the restoration of his marriage. Guide and direct him, Lord, as he learns all that You want to teach him about being the kind of husband and father You have called him to be. and speak to his wife wherever she may be and let her feel the power of the Holy Spirit at work in her heart, mind and spirit as you draw her home. Give David peace and confidence in You, Lord, and let him KNOW that You will NEVER fail him or let him down; that as long as he does things YOUR way, he WILL get YOUR results! And we ask that You be glorified in this marriage and family in the name and authority of Jesus christ, our Lord and Savior, and all for His glory! Amen.
I thank you SOOO much for this website. I am separated from my husband, which I fought very hard not to be. Right now, my husband is in another state, but I’m standing for the restoration of my marriage. This website has helped so very much during my separation and it has brought me closer to my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. For a few years I have been saying that I want to change my life; I’m tired of smoking, drinking, etc. But I didn’t know what was up the road, so I give thanks for this situation, because it has brought me to know Jesus and to have a relationship with Him. And I’m learning and understanding so much that it amazes me. I have good days and not so good days, but I’m holding on and still standing for my marriage.
I dated my husband ten years ago and after ten years of not having any contact with him, he called me one day and we started dating again and were married in two years. I always loved him, so when I got that call after ten years, my heart melted.
I’m going to stand for my marriage, because I know my husband is in bondage, and I’m asking Jesus to give me a clean heart.
Thank you SO much for this website; it has helped me SO VERY MUCH! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!
Leslie, thank you so much for your gracious and kind words and most of all for letting me know how the site has helped you grow in your walk and relationship with the Lord. Honey, we can all relate to how this time of testing has brought us closer to the Lord, and we are in agreement that it is worth it all just for that! And that’s such a pleasing attitude to God too, so I know He will bless and reward you. If your husband called you after ten years of no contact; there’s no doubt that he loved you during that time as well, so he will be back again. And don’t worry about time and distance; none of that is a big deal to our Lord God! Just keep your focus on your walk and relationship with the Lord, and He will deal with everything else. Continue to learn how to be the wife God created you to be, and then you will be prepared when He brings your husband back home where he belongs. And do consider becoming a member of the FAM Fellowship, because there’s so much more support and encouragement there–we are blessed to be one big, loving family.
Dear Lord, we thank You for how You have worked in Leslie’s heart and life and that she is now walking in a much closer relationship with You. And we know that You hate divorce and that YOU can and will reach her husband no matter how far he wanders away from home and bring him back where he belongs. So we ask that You give Leslie the faith, strength, wisdom, grace and patience she needs to wait for Your perfect time. And we thank You for bringing her to the website and that it has been a blessing to her. We know, Lord, that love never really dies, and these two obviously loved each other during ten years without contact, and that love is still there. So we ask You to remind Leslie’s husband of the love he has for his wife and for that to be more important to him that anything that drew him away from his wife and home. Be Thou glorified in this marriage, Lord, which we ask in the name and authority of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Thank you for these beautiful prayers..it gives me great comfort and most of all hope..I feel the Lord is working in my life to restore my marriage. My husband and I have been separated one year and we have been married for twenty-nine years; after dating for five years before getting married. We have eight beautiful grandkids and three grown daughters. We were separated for two years thirteen years ago and the Lord heard my prayers and we reconciled, but we had so many issues that were never worked out and we are back to where we started with more issues and resentment. I feel my family and marriage is under attack…but I place my faith and trust in the Lord and know he will protect me and our family. Please pray for us. Thank you and God bless you for this website.
I have only recently found this site and have spent hours going through it. What a Blessing!
I always watch the God channels looking for men or women of God teaching the things for marriage restoration, like i have read on your website.
I Pray God continues to Bless the work of Your hands, in the Name of Jesus. Amen!
Blessings