A Time For EVERYTHING
I was SO impressed with something one of the FAM members posted on the private section of our site in the wee hours of this morning that I’ve asked her permission to share it with everyone, because I know this is a VERY important and timely message for everyone standing for marriage restoration! Thank you so much, Jennifer, for your inspiration, encouragement and obedience to the Lord! Here’s Jennifer’s post:
Hey ladies, it is kinda late here but as I was studying my bible tonight the Holy Spirit quickened me to write what the Lord showed me about the seasons of life, and that he works in seasons. I actually began studying in the book of Proverbs, but then I had looked up a reference scripture and I began to read in the book of Ecclesiastes and I came upon chapter 3 and couldn’t stop reading, and the Lord just began to speak to me as I was reading about the seasons and how there is a season for everything. I then heard him tell me to post this on the site and so here I am. I know it gets very tiring in the stand as time gets to be very long, but I want to encourage you that there is a different season coming your way and that this too shall pass. I will share with you what the Lord was speaking to me as I read this chapter of Ecclesiastes as I share the verses with you.
1.) To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
2.) A time to be born, and a time to die; A time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
3.) A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4.) A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn and a time to dance;
5.) A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; A time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6.) A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7.) A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8.) A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
I’ll stop here for a minute and share something that came to me; first of all this is a season in your life it will not last forever, though it may seem that way. As I was thinking today how great it looks for some of the restorations and couldn’t understand why my marriage has not come as far as some of the other standers have, one thing that actually just came to me was, all of us are definitely in a season, but we are not all in the same season. Where it may be winter for one it may be summer for the other, when it is daylight time here, it is dark somewhere else in the world, so one thing I have learned tonight is we can’t compare our restoration times with others.
9.) What profit hath he that worketh in that wherein he laboreth?
10.) I have seen the travail, which God hath given to the sons of men to be exercised in it.
11.) He hath made everything beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.
Let’s stop right there for a minute. He hath made everything beautiful in HIS TIME. Right there is where we all fall short in our wait sometimes, I am guilty as well, we want everything to happen in our time, but it will not be in our time only in God’s time, but I want you to see something here. It says, HE hath made EVERYTHING BEAUTIFUL. That must mean that no matter what the Lord does in your life, if you are his child it will be BEAUTIFUL. Then it says that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end. So I guess this means that God is working and we know we are somewhere between the beginning and the end. And we know God is working because all things must come to an end; there is a beginning of all things and an end to all things. We must not try and figure out everything that God is doing in our spouse and our restoration, because according to his word here we won’t succeed in figuring everything out. Ladies this word tonight is not only for some of you, but for me as well, because I have been bad about these things, but the lord told me to share these things with you all too, and I am just being obedient to him. But it does feel good to know that we have an Awesome God who took the keys of death, hell, and the grave from Satan, and he is in charge of our lives and our spouse’s lives as well.
12.) I know that there is no good in them, but for a man to rejoice, and to do good in his life.
13.) And also that every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labor, it is the gift of God.
14.) I know that whatsoever God doeth, it shall be forever: nothing can be put to it, nor anything taken from it: and God doeth it that men should fear before him.
15.) That which hath been is now; and that which is to be hath already been; and God requireth that which is past.
We are going to enjoy the good of our labor, if we persevere, because it says to enjoy it. It is the gift of God; he wants us to enjoy our lives. in verse 14, whatever God doeth it shall be forever. Therefore if God restores our marriage it shall be forever, nothing can be added to it nor taken from it, so just trust the ‘lord and he will do it and it will be a forever thing, not just temporary. Where if we manipulated our husbands back it would more than likely be a temporary thing, but if we totally give God the control over our spouse and our restoration we will never have to worry about being in these circumstances again, because what he does, it is forever. Verse 15, that which has been is now; don’t look back, because that which is to be has already been and you can’t change that, so forgive yourself and everyone involved and look forward. And God requireth that which is past, this is what we need to seek God for if he required it, then it had to happen and I believe that everything happens for a reason. We need to seek his face and find out what the reason is on our part; there is something in it for us as well as our prodigal spouses.
I just encourage all you ladies to just trust that your season will change soon, but in God’s timing and that’s what we want because he is perfect and don’t get to discouraged or impatient, because just remember, whatsoever God doeth, it shall be forever. I think it’s worth it, how about you? Jennifer in KY
Thank you Jennifer, I just read your post and I to can identify with the seasons. My spouse and I have been separated for almost 5 years, in about 2 weeks our 22nd wedding anniversary will come around. During the 5 years there have been many seasons that the Lord has seen me through. Some I have handled well and others I have not. The Lord brought to my attention the season of my daughter being sad, down, and rebellious and constantly running away. During that time I know that the Lord was holding me and He sent many people in my path to encourage me; especially Linda Wattu during that time. I am grateful to God for that. I am grateful that particular season is over and a new one is starting. I too, have found it difficult at times to forget the past (you see I sometimes think of and long for the good times when we were a family, vacations, get-togethers, etc.) Sometimes I feel like a castaway but then I focus on the goodness of the Lord and I continue on. I struggle to find the good all the time in my circumstances–I know I can not focus on the circumstances because it looks so devastating in the natural realm of things. But God is faithful and we must continue to look to Him instead on the outward appearance of things. I am working on my habit of expecting things from my spouse; that was the past, no longer can I expect anything from him for me or my children. I look to God; He is our source. Jennifer, sometimes I wish I could climb up in the Lord’s lap and lay my head on His chest; this is impossible because He is not a physical being so I envision that He is always embracing me for the word says “That He Will Never Leave Me Nor Forsake Me…….” I must hold on to that. Again thank you for your encouragement today and May God Continue To Bless You and Yours!!!! ‘Chelle’
This was awesome, and is an answer to a heartfelt cry to God from last night. I’ve been standing for more than two years; thru adultery, another woman, and divorce. I found out recently that the other woman my husband left me for originally is now back in the picture and it really threw me. So I’ve been fasting for a week tomorrow and praying and crying out to God over this. And last night, I asked Him to please show me what to do, what to believe, what direction to face, and what about myself needs to be looked at and changed. I’ve prayed this before, many times during this stand, but last night the prayer seemed to just come from my deepest spirit. And this morning, I “stumbled” on this website and I’ve never heard of it, or ever seen it, and only found it through researching “fasting and prayer” on the internet. Once I found this particular page and began reading, I began crying. Through this page, through the words posted here, God is speaking to me and it seems like I’ve not been able to hear Him in such a long time. I’ve missed His voice
And this that you wrote, Jennifer, is simply awesome. I so much thank you for being obedient to God’s voice and writing what was in your heart. I’m praying for you. Andrea
God is good!!!! Every time I think of giving up; He gives me new hope for the rebuilding
of my marriage.
Thank you for providing a tremendous source of encouragement for this season in our
lives. This website is a fabulous resource, glorifying God’s good works in impossible
situations. I believe that we are unable to change ourselves. That change is possible
only through God. I have been trying to change myself thirty out of the forty-three
years I’ve been living. And God, did for me what I could not do for myself in an
instant.
Everything I read here, has impact in my personal situation. Like Jennifer, I have
realized, that in my life, God must come first. I struggle daily, with consequences
of the past and present actions. the difference is that I now know who to turn to
first. I know God will rebuild all of our relationships if it is his will for us,
in His time, not mine. I just pray, that he searches my heart and does any changing
that needs to be done. So I give him an open invitation to do whatever he needs to
do to enable me to fulfill my destiny in Him. I created quite a mess for myself over
the years and I don’t expect it to be cleaned up overnight.
James 1:11 God blesses those who endure testing with patience. Afterward, you will
receive the CROWN OF LIFE that God has promised to those who love him.
God bless each of you ladies; he blessed me by leading me to you.