I truly wish there was some way to help everyone standing for the restoration of their marriages understand that there’s NO way we can ever know what God is going to do or when He’s going to do it…BUT HE WILL RESTORE OUR MARRIAGES IF WE STAND ON HIS WORD IN FAITH AND OBEDIENCE!!! And we have to believe that NO MATTER WHAT WE SEE OR HEAR from our spouses or anyone else!

It just so happens that we have a perfect example of that in the FAM Fellowship. Two Saturdays ago, I spent the better part of the day talking to one of our members who had just been given settlement papers by her husband, who had already served her with divorce papers. Despite being very confident that the Lord would prevent the divorce from going through, she was upset by the papers and she still had to deal with the legal issues and come to an understanding of what her husband was proposing. So we spent a lot of time trying to understand what he was offering, how it would work for her, and what kind of counter proposal she could offer. When she was served with divorce papers, she chose NOT to get an attorney, and she asked her husband if he would sit down with her instead so they could work out the details. Up to that time, he wouldn’t talk to her at all, and the only communication they had was by very limited email, and at that time he was involved with an NCP (non-covenant person). Meanwhile, since her husband had left home about nine months earlier, she got saved and the Lord changed her radically, but her husband had not had an opportunity to see that…until they started meeting to work out the details of their divorce settlement! And it seems he must have really liked what he saw! Because it wasn’t too long before the NCP didn’t seem to be around anymore and he started calling and coming by the house for no apparent reason. Then she received the settlement agreement two weeks ago and they spent the following week trying to work out some of the more minute details of the agreement. She made it clear that she didn’t want the divorce, but she was not going to stand in his way or try to hurt him in the process. So she went along with all of his requests; like trying to put the mortgage in her name only; just to find out that wasn’t possible because she didn’t have enough income. He also asked her to put the utilities for their house in her name as well, which she did. Then they got a very high and unexpected bill for closing out the other account because they were on a special payment plan and there was a deficit at that particular time! Her husband wanted to get his name off of things so he could qualify for a loan on his own for a home or whatever. But during that entire process, he seemed to get more and more confused and started seeking out her company much more than before; yet continued moving forward with the settlement agreement talk and plans. Then, out of the blue, in the middle of last week, he actually asked her to go to lunch with him this past Saturday–even though he knew her sister was flying in to spend the weekend with her! He said he wanted to talk about “stuff”, which was interesting since that’s all they had been doing for the past two weeks! Since he was leaving the next day to go out of town the following week on business, it didn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that was a very good sign…and it was! What he wanted to talk about is how things would be if he came back home and what everyone would think about it! They actually moved his “stuff” into the garage, because he’s supposed to be moving at the end of the month, but he will be out of town when the new apartment comes available. Hmmmm…I wonder what the chances are that he’ll ever make it to that new apartment!!! Not very good, I’d say! BUT…if anyone had tried to tell her that was going to happen two weeks ago, she never would have believed it! So that just goes to PROVE that we do NOT know what God is doing, how He is working behind the scenes, and when He will bring everything into perfect alignment for HIS perfect plan of restoration to come to pass! Sadly, I have no doubt that way too many people give up just before their breakthrough is about to be manifested! So please don’t ever make the mistake of thinking you know how or when God is going to answer your prayers and restore your marriage because it will always be so much more than you’d ever think or imagine!

Posted Tuesday, April 24th, 2007 at 7:14 pm in Seeds Of Faith.