It’s really been quite exciting and amazing to witness as the Lord has steadfastly and faithfully upheld His Word (Isaiah 55:10-11) when it comes to the outcome of adulterous relationships in the lives of many of the FAM Fellowship members’ spouses. Yet, that should be no surprise when we truly understand and believe that God’s Word will NEVER be mocked and that He WILL DO EXACTLY WHAT HIS WORD SAYS HE WILL DO; just as Isaiah 46:10-11 declares: I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say: My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please. From the east I summon a bird of prey; from a far-off land, a man to fulfill my purpose. What I have said, that will I bring about; what I have planned, that will I do.

As men and women standing for marriage restoration even when our spouses are involved in adulterous relationships, it’s very important to KNOW that GOD will do WHATEVER IT TAKES to bring about EVERYTHING declared in His Word. And when we read Proverbs 5 and Proverbs 7, there is NO DOUBT how clearly and accurately God foretold what happens to men and women caught in the devil’s snare of adultery; particularly as stated in the following passages:

My son, pay attention to my wisdom; Lend your ear to my understanding, That you may preserve discretion, And your lips may keep knowledge. For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, And her mouth is smoother than oil; But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, Sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death, Her steps lay hold of hell. Lest you ponder her path of life—Her ways are unstable; You do not know them.
Therefore hear me now, my children, And do not depart from the words of my mouth. Remove your way far from her, And do not go near the door of her house, Lest you give your honor to others, And your years to the cruel one; Lest aliens be filled with your wealth, And your labors go to the house of a foreigner; And you mourn at last, When your flesh and your body are consumed, And say: “ How I have hated instruction, And my heart despised correction! (Proverbs 5:1-12 – NKJV)

For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of a seductress? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, And He ponders all his paths. His own iniquities entrap the wicked man, And he is caught in the cords of his sin. He shall die for lack of instruction, And in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray. (Proverbs 5:20-23 – NKJV)

For at the window of my house I looked through my lattice, And saw among the simple, I perceived among the youths, A young man devoid of understanding, Passing along the street near her corner; And he took the path to her house In the twilight, in the evening, In the black and dark night.
And there a woman met him, With the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart. She was loud and rebellious, Her feet would not stay at home. At times she was outside, at times in the open square, Lurking at every corner.
So she caught him and kissed him; With an impudent face she said to him: “I have peace offerings with me; Today I have paid my vows. So I came out to meet you, Diligently to seek your face, And I have found you. I have spread my bed with tapestry, Colored coverings of Egyptian linen. I have perfumed my bed With myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. Come, let us take our fill of love until morning; Let us delight ourselves with love. For my husband is not at home; He has gone on a long journey; He has taken a bag of money with him, And will come home on the appointed day.”
With her enticing speech she caused him to yield, With her flattering lips she seduced him. Immediately he went after her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, Or as a fool to the correction of the stocks, Till an arrow struck his liver. As a bird hastens to the snare, He did not know it would cost his life.
Now therefore, listen to me, my children; Pay attention to the words of my mouth: Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, Do not stray into her paths; For she has cast down many wounded, And all who were slain by her were strong men. Her house is the way to hell, Descending to the chambers of death. (Proverbs 7:6-28 – NKJV)

Many men and women might well be surprised to realize just how accurately the above portrayal of adultery details their own situations, especially how their spouses were trapped into the sin Satan now hopes will steal, kill and destroy so many marriages and families. But that’s because the devil doesn’t have any new tricks up his sleeve; he doesn’t need them because the old ones still work just as well! And for those who don’t understand what happened and how their spouses fell prey to adultery, reading these passages of scripture should provide a great deal of insight and understanding. And please note that even the strong fall prey to the temptations of adultery.

I was especially offended and upset a few days ago when a FAM Fellowship member called for the first time and said that a pastor counseled her against reconciliation with her husband (who had indicated that was what he now wants), because he said that “people who commit adultery have dark hearts.” Well, perhaps he should tell God that considering HE said that David was a man after HIS OWN HEART!!! Acts 13:22 says After removing Saul, he made David their king. He testified concerning him: ‘I have found David son of Jesse a man after my own heart; he will do everything I want him to do.’ For those who don’t know; David committed adultery with Bathsheba and arranged for her husband to be killed when he found out that she was pregnant…AND HE WROTE MOST OF THE PSALMS! So as both of the above chapters make abundantly clear, adultery is the consequence of ignoring the wise counsel of God’s Word and ANYONE who fails to take heed to it can fall prey to adultery! And as the spouses of unfaithful husbands and wives, when we get honest, we all have to admit that OUR failure to be the wives and husbands God called us to be, OUR failure to heed the wisdom and instruction of God’s Word, also contributed to the failures of our marriages.

BUT the GOOD NEWS is that when the spouses of men and women caught up in adultery learn to take God’s counsel seriously and to DO what His Word instructs, we see that EVERYTHING the Bible teaches about adultery is ABSOLUTELY true! As many marriages of FAM Fellowship members move ever so much closer to restoration, we’re in absolute awe as we witness how totally and completely adulterous spouses’ opinions and relationships with the NCPs (non-covenant person) continue to changed, because it is happening EXACTLY as declared (PROMISED) in the above passages of scripture! There’s just NO other explanation for the calamity and problems that have consistently and repeatedly beset the spouses of many of the FAM Fellowship members, and just as God declared in Hosea 2, HE will cause them to return when they realize that they were better off before than they are now…just as the Prodigal Son did (that’s why the spouses who leave are often referred to as “prodigals”). And just as foretold in Hosea 2 and as happened with the Prodigal Son, we have seen adulterous spouses lose their homes, their businesses, their automobiles, end up in jail and homeless, and how their plans to find the happiness and all they thought they would find in adulterous relationships totally blew up in their faces. And we’ve even witnessed the manifestation of physical and mental health problems as well. GOD’S WORD WILL NOT BE MOCKED AND IT WILL BE PERFORMED AND PERFECTED IN OUR LIVES WHEN WE JUST TRUST AND OBEY!!!

So the private pages of the FAM website are filled with testimonies of how God has worked (and is working) in the circumstances of members’ spouses to put asunder adulterous relationships, and after a while, certain patterns become undeniably evident. And one of the most awe inspiring things to me personally is to see how the roles of the spouses and the NCPs are SO CONSISTENTLY reversed in the lives of spouses who get caught up in adultery once their standing spouses learn to put what the word teaches into practice! IT NEVER FAILS!

In fact, what inspired this post today, though I’ve been contemplating it for a few days now based on very similar testimonies from other fellowship members, was a call I got this morning from a member who wanted to share how the Lord is working in her situation. And like so many others, she is just blown away by how her husband’s attitude toward her has changed and how he now seems to be so unconcerned with the NCP; now she’s the nuisance and he’d obviously much rather spend time with his wife! And just as I’ve heard so many other women say, she can see that the NCP is now doing the exact same things she used to do when she was so desperately trying to hold onto her husband! And all of their husbands turned to them almost immediately once they made it clear that they were going to let them go and then they started treating the NCP the same way they used to treat their wives! Seeing how God’s Word is being upheld and performed so CONSISTENTLY AND FAITHFULLY in the lives of our members is one of the most exciting things I’ve ever experienced! These are REAL people and REAL situations that appeared totally hopeless in the natural, but once they started seriously heeding God’s instructions as they stand on the power and promise of His Word for marriage restoration, GOD STARTED DOING WHAT ONLY HE CAN DO IN THE SUPERNATURAL! Well, as we were discussing how totally amazing it is to see such a complete turn around, I said that’s because there’s NO such thing as a GOOD substitute for the REAL thing; that no matter how good a faux diamond may look; no matter how much it glitters and shines; it’s still a fake and it will never be worth as much as the real thing! I said that the love her husband has for her is the real thing and that he just lost sight of that because of the yuk it was buried under and once she got rid of the “yuk”, the NCP didn’t stand a chance, because she can’t EVER hold a candle to what he feels for her. And that’s just something God manages supernaturally and it is something no man or woman can change—no matter how hard they try and no matter how much they don’t want it to be that way! There is no wisdom, no insight, no plan that can succeed against the LORD. (Proverbs 21:30) So if your spouse seems hopelessly trapped in the snare Satan has so craftily set, read the above passages of scripture and KNOW THAT GOD will DO exactly what his word says he will do! He keeps His promises, and there will NEVER be a GOOD substitute for you in your spouse’s heart and life! So do YOUR part; TRUST AND OBEY GOD, and you WILL be blessed and encouraged!

Posted Friday, May 16th, 2008 at 4:04 pm in Seeds Of Faith.