(Note from Linda: Becky, a FAM member with a restored marriage, posted the following message on the private site, and since it’s such a powerful and encouraging message for everyone standing for marriage restoration, I want to share it here as well! If ever we question the wisdom and power of Proverbs 3:5-6, this Old Testament story should put all of our doubts and questions to rest, because the Israelites just had to trust God with all of their hearts and sure would have been in BIG trouble if they had leaned on their own understanding! Just look what trouble the Moabites got into when they did that! And what powerful reminder that things are NOT always what they might SO “reasonably” appear to be! So no matter what we hear and see, or don’t hear and see, let’s put our faith in God to SUPERNATURALLY do the impossible and to make every provision for all of our needs and then some! And when we start digging through all of those things that keep the Lord from working in our lives (unforgiveness, self-righteousness, pride, and failure to trust and obey and love and respect our spouses unconditionally for starters), we will without a doubt be blessed and encouraged beyond belief as His blessings and provisions begin to flow in our lives and the restoration of our marriages and families!)

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Hi Everyone,

I want to share a passage of scripture that the Lord has been reminding me of from II Kings 3 (NKJV), when the Lord tells His people to “Make this valley full of ditches.” God was instructing his people to make room for the provision of God, and there are many lessons in this passage of scripture we can learn when we are in tough places of life and need God’s miraculous and supernatural provision.

This story starts out with the Moabites rebelling against Israel. So the King of Israel King Jehoram (son of Ahab and Jezebel) went to King Jehoshaphat, King of Judah, and asks him to join him in fighting the Moabites. King Jehoshaphat agrees, so they made a plan to take a certain route through the dry wilderness and catch them by surprise. However, they found themselves in trouble when they ran out of water. King Jehoram blamed God because it looked like they would all die out there. But King Jehoshaphat said, “You know, that doesn’t sound like the God I serve. Is there not a prophet that we can inquire of the Lord what to do?” So the first lesson is that when we find ourselves in a dry place and it looks like there is no way out…seek the Lord about what to do.

So they brought in Elisha. And just look at what Elisha did when he wanted a word from God in verse 15…”But now bring me a musician.” Then it happened; when the musician played, the hand of the Lord came upon him. So the second lesson is that when we need a fresh word from the Lord, a word for the “right now season”…do as Elisha did and begin to worship the Lord; and when we begin to worship, we will find clarity in our mind and the Lord will speak to us.

Then the word of the Lord came in verse 16, and He said, “Make this valley full of ditches.” And verse 17 goes on to say, “For thus says the Lord: you shall not see wind, nor shall you see rain; yet that valley shall be filled with water, so that you, your cattle, and your animals may drink.”

What the Lord told them made no sense in the natural because they were out in the hot, dry desert, where there was no water; yet the Lord was telling them to go dig ditches. So the third lesson is to be quick to obey what the Lord tells us to do, even though it may not make sense in our own minds.

Notice that the Lord said, “You shall not see wind, nor shall you see rain, yet the valley will be filled with water.” So as always, God was saying that we won’t necessarily see where the provision is coming from, but He will provide. As we stand for our marriages, we don’t always see how God is working, but we can rest assured that He is at work.

So as the people were digging ditches, they were making room for God’s promised provision even though they didn’t know how it was going to be done. And since we know that God is the same yesterday, today and forever, we need to be digging ditches to make room for the provision God has promised us. We particularly need to dig the ditches needed to make room for His provision of marriage restoration, which means that we all need to dig ditches of forgiveness and make room for the flow of God’s spirit to come into our lives to bring us peace, refreshment, newness of life and fruitfulness. So I’m asking God to show me what ditches I need to dig in my life.

But a two-fold miracle took place here. Not only did God refresh them with water and save them from certain destruction; just look at verse 18….”And this is a simple matter in the sight of the Lord; He will also deliver the Moabites into your hand.” Don’t you just love that part…this is a simple matter in the sight of the Lord! God not only wants to refresh us with His presence and give us newness of life; He will deal with our enemies too!

Then He gave them instruction again in verse 19…”Also you shall attack every fortified city and every choice city, and shall cut down every good tree, and stop up every spring of water, and ruin every good piece of land with stones.” So the fourth lesson is that when God gives us victory over our enemies, we are to burn the bridges behind us; crippling the enemies’ ability to recover and regroup to attack us so easily again. And we do that by using the Sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of the Living God, prayer, fasting, faith, obedience, and other spiritual disciplines.

It’s very easy to get complacent when we see the enemy start to retreat, but we are not to stop there; we are to be vigilant and relentless, and not stop until complete and total victory is won! So we can’t lose sight of the vision God has given us for completely restored marriages functioning as God intends; where both husband and wife are fulfilling the plans and purposes God has for our marriages and lives. So don’t settle for anything less, and don’t give the enemy room to regroup and attack again.

As we continue to read, we see just how God accomplished this amazing miracle. There was a storm beyond the mountains that they could not see or hear, but in the morning, the water came up through the ground and filled those ditches. And if they had not dug those ditches as instructed by the Lord, they would not have the water He provided. So the first miracle was the provision of the water to refresh them.

But our God always does exceedingly above all we ask or think and He wasn’t done yet! When the Moabites heard they were there and came out to fight them, God literally brought them to the Israelites so they could readily defeat them, as described in verse 22…”Then they rose up early in the morning and the sun was shining on the water; and the Moabites saw the water on the other side as red as blood.” Since that area was not known to have rivers or bodies of water, when the sun rose in the sky and reflected on the pools of water, the Moabites wrongly assume that the three kings’ armies had turned on themselves, and that it was blood they saw. So they thought they wouldn’t have to fight, and could just go in and plunder the spoils, which is what they did in a very disorganized fashion. So Israel was able to defeat them and utterly destroyed them.

God has already made provision for us, so we need to make room for it in our lives. Therefore, we need to ask God to show us the ditches we need to dig in our lives to make room for the flow of His supernatural miracle working power in our lives. So let’s start digging some of those ditches today and make room for God’s provision!

(Note from Linda: As always, we were all blessed when Stephanie shared the following message on the private FAM Fellowship website because she really hit the nail on the head! Jesus came to give us abundant lives and we do not glorify Him when we continue to live in the miserable state many standers make of their lives while waiting for the restoration of their marriages. But when we live in the faith and victory Jesus came to give us, we give others a reason to believe in and receive Him as their Lord and Savior and when our faith brings about the restoration of our marriages and families, Jesus is lifted up, His kingdom is magnified and glorified, and HE will draw all men to Himself (John 12:32)! So let’s learn to live life more abundantly and we will indeed be blessed and encouraged beyond belief!)

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Hello Everyone!

I want to share another very important lesson I just learned. This past weekend was my wedding anniversary and I had anticipated that I would be doing something with my husband, especially since we had seen each other so much the week before. But he didn’t contact me at all that day, so I decided to drop my children off at my mom’s, and treated myself to dinner and a movie; which is something I never would have done by myself in the past. I was hurt, angry and disappointed. And I was frustrated with myself, my husband and the whole situation. I even thought about all of the scriptures we all know and love so much; particularly Romans 8:28 and Jeremiah 29:11, but I still wondered what kind of good plan could come of this, and I sat at the restaurant feeling lonely, depressed, abandoned and rejected. But it was those very feelings that taught me an invaluable lesson. Simply put; God does not want us to live with those feelings, because He wants us to live life ABUNDANTLY! So I was just letting the devil steal, kill and destroy!

More than likely, most of us tend to think about marriage restoration day in and day out, and often become prisoners of our own thoughts because our emotions, behavior, prayers, and time with the Lord are significantly impacted and influenced by what our spouses are and are not saying and doing, or what our current circumstances happen to be. Yet while we live our lives as “standers” and wait for marriage restoration in God’s perfect timing, we are not meant to be angry, lonely, depressed or whatever negative emotions we naturally tend to experience while we wait.! And even though it is important to know the scriptures that comfort us so much, there’s no doubt that God does not want us to require so much comforting. He obviously wants us to change our FOCUS and to stop spending so much time fretting and thinking about marriage restoration that it becomes the driving force of our lives and who we are (Philippians 4:4-9).

We are so much more than “standers” and God wants us to be thankful and content with where we are at any given time (1 Thessalonians 5:18 and Philippians 4:11). His plan is for us to have good lives and He even sent Jesus to die on the cross to enable us to live life more abundantly (John 10:10 NASB). So God does not want us to waste valuable time and energy on the negative emotions often associated with standing for marriage restoration. Restoring our marriages is God’s work, and He does not need or want our help! But He does want us to DO something with the gifts, talents and abilities he has given each of us for His glory and the furtherance of His kingdom.

So I learned a very important lesson about letting go; that it actually means moving on with our lives and living in peace (1 Corinthians 7:15). Of course, that’s not the “moving on” that naysayers tell us we need to do, but God’s kind of moving on–which is moving out of the way and letting God work. And letting go and getting out of God’s way means that we don’t have to concern ourselves with how God is going to restore our marriages, when he’s going to do it, or what WE need to do to make it happen, etc. For example…a child is waiting for dinner to be ready, and he is VERY hungry…the same way we desire marriage restoration. The child can smell the food cooking…the same as when we see positive changes in our spouses. And the child knows that the dinner will taste good…the same way we believe God’s promises. However, the child is SO hungry that he keeps running into the house to ask his mom when dinner will be ready…the same way we repeatedly ask God when our promise of marriage restoration will be manifested. So the child asks his mom if there is anything he can do to help speed dinner along…the same way we want to “do something” to help God. But his mom tells him to go out and play…the same way God tells us to trust Him; not to worry about it and to live life abundantly. So the child goes out to play AND has a great time because his friends are there and the sun is shining, and he even learns a new game he loves and loses track of time…the same way we do when we live fruitful lives with hearts full of praise and thanksgiving. And then his mom suddenly shouts “Dinner’s ready!”…the same way our marriage restorations occur suddenly!

Even though I was out doing something to pass the time and keep myself distracted, I was miserable and that’s NOT what God wants for me or for any of us. He knows how this is going to end, and he knows what he is doing(Isaiah 55:9) and that it will be good and that we will be overjoyed and in awe when it manifests. God doesn’t want us upset and miserable; but He does want us to enjoy and learn while on the journey.

So I encourage all of us to go out and DO something; to get involved in other things. We need to return to doing the things we loved to do before we became consumed with marriage restoration; whether it’s reading a good book, seeing a movie, working in a ministry, volunteering, or whatever feeds our spirit. And if we don’t know what we would enjoy doing, we should pray about it and let God show us the things we have forgotten. Let us no longer be held prisoners by our circumstances. Our spouses and marriages should NOT be our world and the source of our happiness and fulfillment. God is the only one Who can do that and our marriages should not take first place over God. He loves us more than our spouses can or ever will. And when we live life ABUNDANTLY, despite what is going on, we are not only TRUSTING him, we are GLORIFYING him. We all have special talents and gifts He is just waiting for us to use. We are each unique and wonderful, and He made us that way for a reason; for a purpose that NO ONE else can fulfill but US!! So, we need to hit the minimize button on marriage restoration, change our focus and live life more abundantly!!!!

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly. (John 10:10 NASB)

With Love, Your Sister in Christ,
Stephanie

(Note from Linda: There is little more encouraging to men and women standing for marriage restoration than the >After MarriageRestoration testimonies of those who have already been blessed with the fruit of their stand, so I know everyone will be blessed by the following message, which Kelly shared on the private FAM Fellowship website this morning! We do indeed serve a faithful God and we can count on His promises to restore and repay all that the locusts have eaten and destroyed (Joel 2:25) nd that He is able and will give us more than we could ever ask or imagine; just as Ephesians 3:20 declares…Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen!) So be blessed and encouraged and KNOW that our God is ever so faithful and so able!)

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Hi to everyone at my FAM family. I haven’t posted since our recent Vow Renewal Ceremony in early January and just felt compelled this morning to touch base, give praise to my God, and encourage those who are still trusting and waiting.

Chris and I are doing great and we are so HAPPY. Our children are happy again and we have four months to go before our newest little baby is born. God is so FAITHFUL. So I want to encourage you all to continue in your stand for your marriage and in trusting the only one who has the power to save it. He will NOT fail you.

I also want you all to know that I do not regret one minute of doing things GODS way. I do not regret the hardship I endured in the name of love and in Jesus’ name. I do not regret one tear that was shed or prayer that was prayed for my husband and marriage. It was all worth it. I can’t tell you how many times my husband has actually thanked me sincerely for standing for our marriage and trusting God and for loving him even when he was very unlovable. And this is the same man who once said he would never come back and did not love me anymore; yet who now tells me every day how much he loves me. And he even told me recently that he thinks I am a remarkable woman. We are closer and more intimate than we ever ever were and I want you all to know that we are truly happy; especially if you are wondering if you will ever be happy again.

Be encouraged! GOD CAN NOT FAIL. He will fulfill every promise. And I promise to post more often and stay in touch with you all more.

Joyfully,
Kelly

Hi All,

I want to share some awesome teaching I have been receiving from my pastor. He is teaching a series about pursuing our dreams. The way he is defining dreams is that they are the desires of your heart; your aspirations. He began by explaining that it is God who plants these desires in us and we know it is a God given dream/desire when 1) it is way bigger than something we can do on our own, and way beyond our current situation and has to happen supernaturally, 2) it’s consuming, meaning we have a passion to see it come to pass and no matter what happens, the desire doesn’t go away and 3) it causes us to come out of our comfort zone. And that sure does sound like standing for marriage restoration! And it was so important to me that my pastor explained that this is a God given desire or dream because unlike some, I didn’t “hear” a voice saying to stand or see a sign saying to stand as I drove along the highway; I just knew I woke up one day and wanted my marriage to be healed and restored more than anything I have wanted before in my life. And that was an unexplainable occurrence, especially since I was the one who initiated the separation and my husband had not changed who he was in any way.

My pastor also taught about what we should do while we wait for our dream to come to pass, which I found synonymous to standing. He taught from Psalm 37:3-7 (NKJV). Psalm 37:3 says to Trust in the Lord and do good. As we all know, trusting in God during this process is vital, but the verse also says and do good. And that means working on getting the yuk out, working in God’s kingdom, operating in the fruits of the spirit, showing compassion to others, etc. The verse goes on to say, “Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness.” That means to remain steadfast in our stand, unmovable, not being tossed to and fro…decide to stand and STAY THERE! Don’t move, don’t give up and don’t become hopeless; Dwell. And while we are there, feed on His faithfulness. Remember all the signs of encouragement He has shown us while on our way to full restoration, meditate on and confess His Word and promises, and think about all the blessings we have in other areas of our lives…feed on His faithfulness; not our spouses’ actions or words.

Verse 4 then gives us further instruction and a wonderful promise. “Delight yourself also in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.” So let’s delight to talk to Him in prayer, worship Him through words and song, turn on that praise music and let the praises of our King permeate the atmosphere and then He promises to give us the desires of our hearts, which is the restoration of our marriages!!!! Verse 5 states, “Commit your way to the Lord, Trust also in Him…” So we are to commit our ways to the Lord, meaning to operate in His commandments and what His word tells us to do…Love the Lord our God with all of our hearts, Let there be no other gods before Him (including our spouses and marriages!), Love our neighbors as ourselves, Forgive those who trespass against us…Let go and let God! Then it tells us to trust again! God knew this was a tall order for us humans, so He pointed out that after we have truly committed our ways to Him, we need to be reminded to trust again! He’s got it under control. But here comes the rest of the verse with another awesome promise after we’ve committed our ways and continue trusting, “And He shall bring it to pass. The “it” is the desires of our hearts; our dreams and what we have been praying for! IT shall come to pass!!!

But it doesn’t stop there. Verse 6 says, “He shall bring forth your righteousness as the light, And your justice as the noonday.” So for all those times we eat humble pie, forgive, withstand rejection, deny our fleshly responses and walk the path of righteousness, God says “Don’t worry; your day is coming! Justice will be served, your righteousness shall shine forth as the light and your light will draw others, including your spouse to you!”

So as we do all that verses 3 through 6 teach us, we also need to do as the beginning of verse 7 says, “Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him;”

Our marriage restorations are on their way. This is a desire God has given us and not only does he give us the desire, He brings what He has given us to desire to pass…just because He is that good, powerful and faithful and for the glory of Jesus Christ!

Be blessed and stay encouraged…for “it shall come to pass!”

The greatest challenge for most men and women standing for marriage restoration has always been and will probably always be letting go and living in peace. Yet that is the single most definitive and declarative instruction in the Word of God when our spouses want to leave, as stated in 1 Corinthians 7:15-16; and as wives are even told how to do in great detail in 1 Peter 3:1-6. Even though contrary to teaching in most churches today, God definitely was NOT saying that it’s okay for us to just get on with our lives and marry the next person in line! His Word is ALWAYS CONSISTENT with the rest of His Word and as Malachi 2:16 declares, GOD HATES DIVORCE, so He was NOT telling us that it’s okay to just abandon His Holy covenant of marriage and to give up on HIS power and promise to defend us and to uphold our marriages when we remain faithful to our vows and put our trust in HIM (Malachi 2 and Psalm 37:5-6)! Not only that, believing and teaching that is TOTALLY CONTRARY to what God said in the first and last verses on the topic of divorce and remarriage in the same chapter (1 Corinthians 7:10-11 and 1 Corinthians 7:39), and God would NOT say something so totally contrary to what He so unambiguously declared before and after these verses because HE is NOT the author of confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33)! SO it is much MORE consistent with His Word to recognize these verses as God’s counsel on HOW to SAVE our marriages and NOT a release to put them asunder, which Jesus very clearly told us that NO MAN SHOULD DO (Matthew 19:6)! However, it is TOTALLY CONSISTENT with how GOD said He would move in Gomer’s (and unfaithful Israel) life (Hosea 2) and how He moved in the life of The Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32), along with numerous warnings against adultery found throughout Proverbs.

Since letting go is often a topic of discussion in the FAM Fellowship, I recently shared a link to a previous Seeds Of Faith post, Understanding the Paradox of Letting our Spouses Go AND Living in Peace, which I want to share here as well. Fortunately, this has even more meaning now that we are blessed with the insight provided by the testimonies of our members and their spouses who have shared The Prodigal Perspective and what happened when their abandoned spouses would not let go and then how they felt and what happened when they did. And without exception, The Prodigal Perspective and Homecoming Testimonies (another new category on the private website) reveal how they were drawn by their spouses’ peaceful demeanor. So it is obviously very important to learn HOW to walk in the peace of God as we stand for the restoration of our marriages.

However, the only way to let go and live in peace as we stand for the restoration of our marriages and families is to realize that marriage restoration is accomplished in the SUPERNATURAL and NOT in the natural; which is why we have to trust and obey God. And when we do, we will NEVER be disappointed, because as Numbers 23:19 declares, God is not a liar and we have HIS Word that HE will faithfully bring everything He plans and says to pass in both Isaiah 46:10-11 and Isaiah 55:10-11, as well as in numerous other passages of scripture.

Unfortunately, one of the greatest obstacles to trusting and obeying God with absolute confidence in the power and promise of His Word and His faithfulness to bring it to pass when we stand in faith and obedience is that we keep evaluating everything based on what we can or can not do, and on what our spouses do or don’t do. And as long as we do that, we are bound and restricted by the natural, which just hinders and prevents all that God can and will do in the SUPERNATURAL. So we have to understand that letting go when our mates want to leave is NOT giving up on our marriages; quite the contrary. But we ARE giving up on our misguided ideas that there is anything WE can do to keep them from leaving or to bring about restoration. And letting our spouses go also means that we have to stop concerning ourselves in any way with what they are or are not doing and thinking that we can do anything to change them or their plans; because we can’t and the more we try, the more damage we do. In fact, that’s disobedience on OUR part and disregards the instructions and counsel given in 1 Corinthians 5:5, 2 Corinthians 10:6, Matthew 7:1-5 and many other verses such as John 8:7, which says But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.” And since NONE of us are, or ever will be without sin, we have no right to cast stones at our spouses or to sit in judgment over what they are or are not doing. And any time we think we are in a position or have the power to change our spouses’ hearts, we are indeed in dangerous territory because Ezekiel 11:19 and Proverbs 21:1 make it clear that it is GOD Who changes and directs our hearts and whenever we think we can do something that only God can do, we are being prideful and God OPPOSES the proud (1 Peter 5:5-6)!

So when we truly trust God and believe that HE CAN AND WILL BRING HIS WORD AND PROMISES TO PASS, and learn to let our spouses go and stop trying to “fix” or “manage” (even manipulate) their lives, we CAN and WILL live in peace if we do as instructed in Philippians 4:4-9 and keep our minds stayed on the Lord and trust Him (Isaiah 26:3)! And one of the best and most effective ways to do that is to CONTINUALLY praise God and to CONSISTENTLY take EVERY thought contrary to His Word captive and make them obedient to Christ; the Word (2 Corinthians 10:3-5 and John 1:14). So whenever we feel fearful and are not experiencing the peace that passes understanding, we know that does NOT come from God, because as 2 Timothy 1:7 (NKJV) declares, …God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. And when we DO what Philippians 4:4-9 tells us to do, we will indeed be able to let our spouses go and live in peace, because it says:
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

God NEVER asks or expects us to do something that HE does not equip and enable us to do, and when we put these things into practice in faith and obedience as we put our hope and confidence in God instead of looking to our spouses; knowing that ONLY He can do what needs to be done to save and restore our marriages, we will surely be blessed and encouraged beyond belief as we realize that we CAN let our spouses go and live in peace because we know that God will restore our marriages for the praise and glory of our Lord and savior, Jesus Christ (Ephesians 1:4-14)!

When I read this message from Glenn Jackson last night, it deeply touched my heart because I know how true it is; yet how difficult it is for many wounded and abandoned husbands and wives to fully understand and comprehend. So I hope and pray that everyone still struggling with bitterness and unforgiveness will take it to heart and ask the Lord to purge and cleanse your heart, mind and spirit of any of the devil’s destructive “yuk” that still remains in you; because it will just hinder the work God wants to do in you, those you love and the restoration of your marriage and family. And it just makes the devil’s work easy because it arms him with the power and authority he needs in your life and circumstances when he comes to steal, kill and destroy everything Jesus came and died to give you (John 10:10). So PRAISE GOD, because the GOOD NEWS is that we CAN overcome those vile emotions just as Jesus promised in John 15:5-7 and the power in us is greater than ANYTHING the devil brings against us (1 John 4:4) when we PRACTICE taking our thoughts captive and making them obedient to Jesus Christ, the Word (2 Corinthians 10:3-6 and John 1:14)! So let’s take Glenn’s message to heart and walk out the power and promise of God’s Word found in Philippians 4:4-9 and we will be blessed and encouraged beyond belief!

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EXHORTATIONS FROM THE FATHER [Reflections Of The Father’s Heart]
February 14th 2009
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When one “maintains” a root of bitterness – especially when it seems clear that they actually were “wronged” in some way – then, a spirit of self-righteousness takes over – convincing them that they are justified in their own thinking and, thus, they speak words that are not rooted and grounded in love [Hebrews 12:15]. In many cases, the words they speak may sound [seem] good but you can be assured that Satan and his forces will use the words they have spoken in a wrong spirit to do harm to the one being “prayed for” or “prophesied over” as what is, in reality, a “curse” opens the door for the Evil One to affix himself to what was spoken or done apart from Christ – and, thus, initiate all manner of demonic activity against that one. This vile action is simply the counterfeit of what My children should actually be doing which is to “love one another”, pray for one another and encourage one another – rather than hate, curse and discourage one another through walking and speaking apart from love [Ephesians 4:31-32].
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First of all, Happy Valentine’s Day to you all! And please let this time be a reminder that God loves you so much!!!

I want to share more of my experience as a prodigal with the hope that you will be comforted and encouraged to know that God really does use Valentine’s Day and other holidays to speak to your prodigal’s heart, mind and spirit. I can remember clearly during my own prodigal days how God talked to me. Regrettably, that was a time when I believed I was deeply in love with my NCP and really believed that I didn’t love my husband. In fact, he intensely irritated me and I really disliked him. I blamed him for everything that was wrong in our marriage, and even felt that it was his fault that I had a NCP. Now that’s deception! But I was so blinded that I just couldn’t see anything positive about him at that time.

As I think back to one of my “prodigal moments,” I remember shopping for the NCP for Valentine’s Day and what happened when I went to the store looking for a special card and gift for him. I was excited until I got into the store, and all of a sudden I was overwhelmed with sadness. But I shrugged it off and kept going. I began reading the cards and couldn’t help remembering how my husband used to get me the most beautiful cards. But I shrugged that off again and my counter attack was that my NCP loved me way more, and treated me far better. So I kept reading the cards and finally picked one, and then I began searching for a gift. I walked by some men’s shirts and started to pick the kind my husband would like. And I even thought about a time he took me to dinner, and wondered, “Why am I thinking about him of all people!”

Then when it came time to see the NCP, all I felt was guilt. And it didn’t matter what a great time I thought I was having, because deep down I knew it was wrong. I KNEW God was unhappy with me, and the guilt ruined my time with the NCP and that made me angry. But I pretended with the NCP; pretending to be enjoying myself and having a good time. And I even convinced myself that I was. Then on the drive home, I felt sick to my stomach, and I started to wonder if the NCP would be there if I was sick. I was unsure, but I knew my husband would be. There are several more examples I could give, but my point is this…YOUR PRODIGAL CANNOT GET YOU OFF OF HIS/HER MIND NO MATTER HOW MUCH THEY FIGHT IT!

I can assure you that God actually comes on stronger than ever to prodigals on days like this!! He begins to discipline us and to speak to our hearts and we have no idea what is going on. Remember…we haven’t been able to hear Him for a long time, so we are confused. But God places the love we have for you, which we have deliberately hidden from ourselves on our hearts (Proverbs 21:1). After all, we are one flesh with you, and bound by the covenant God has made with us (Matthew 19:1-9). And He is using that; He was there when we said “I do” and He means what He says about marriage. He created it and He wants us to take our covenant with you and HIM very seriously (Malachi 2). And it doesn’t matter if you’ve seen us or talked to us or not. And it doesn’t matter who we’re with or what we’re doing (Proverbs 21:30). God won’t stop convicting us, especially on a day about love (Proverbs 16:1).

So even though challenging and emotionally difficult, don’t get caught up in sadness, despair and pity parties. Remember God’s instructions to us in Philippians 4:4-7 and 1 Thessalonians 5:18 and remember that the Lord has you in His righteous right hand. He will comfort you, and at the same time, He will give your prodigal no peace and no rest in their sin and disobedience (Isaiah 57:20-21). They are being called on the carpet today, and God will NOT let them rest. YOU ARE ON THEIR MINDS…YOU ARE IN THEIR HEARTS…YOU ARE WHO THEY LOVE and GOD IS SHOWING IT TO THEM!!! Watch out! God is working overtime for you on this day and many others!!!

I am praying for myself and all of you. May we stand strong on the power of God’s Word and promises and believe that our Father is taking care of everything!

With Love,
Stephanie

(Note from Linda: What a blessing it was for FAM members to read the following “Homecoming Testimony (another new category now on the private FAM Fellowship website), which Karla posted for Russell last night! We are all so blessed to have the insight we’re now getting from our members’ spouses after their marriages have been restored, and I particularly thank Russell for sharing his Prodigal Perspective with us, and for letting me share it here as well; because I know it will be a great blessing to many others standing for marriage restoration in the face of their spouses’ intense anger. It’s also interesting to note that a common theme we hear from prodigals when they do come home is how much the Lord was talking to them and how they struggled with their decision much longer than their spouses ever would have suspected! That’s why God in HIS infinite wisdom tells us NOT to lean to our own understanding and to TRUST HIM WITH ALL OF OUR HEARTS as we acknowledge Him in ALL of our ways and that HE will make our paths straight and the justice of our cause shine like the noon day sun (Proverbs 3:5-6 and Psalm 37:5-6)! And there’s no way to measure the way we are blessed and encouraged when we get that and truly live in peace because we FINALLY LET GO AND LET GOD (1 Corinthians 7:15-16 and 1 Peter 3:1-15)!)

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When I left Karla and our children for the last time in April of 2008, I believed there was no other way. I believed that the situation was hopeless, that our marriage was over, and that there was nothing that anyone could say or do that would change that. But I know now that I was deceived by the enemy.

When I left, I moved into a small but light filled apartment with four white walls. While I had four white walls and a bright room, all I could see was darkness, and all I could feel was loneliness. That was because of the anger. To say that I was angry when I left would be a major understatement. The blame game was on and it was all Karla’s fault. If it wasn’t her fault, then it was someone else’s fault, but it was not mine. I am sure that at some point, Karla has said that she played the blame game too. What we have both come to realize is that the enemy is very crafty, because he had taken two people who loved each other with everything they had, and pitted them against each other, so they blamed each other for anything and everything. I believed she was the enemy, and I am pretty sure that she looked at me the same way for a period of time.

When we leave, we are so angry that the anger covers over any sense of reason. In the beginning, I honestly cannot say that I had anything deep down telling me that I was doing something wrong. However, I do know that the anger prevented me from thinking clearly. To make things worse, any time Karla reminded me of how God hated divorce, or how wrong I was; it was like a knife in my back. I felt that she was acting as if she had some sort of moral authority over me, and that angered me even more.

And when I was angry, I could not hear a word Karla said, God said, or what anyone else said for that matter. But as time passed, and as the anger faded, I became calm, and I began to hear her again. I began to hear peace in her voice, and see peace in her spirit. She was no longer talking about the marriage or the past. And she was in a good mood when I saw her and seemed to be “going with the flow.” Nothing seemed to rattle her anymore, and that was a big change for the better. She kept it light when she saw me; whether she was wishing me the best in life or work, or relaying a funny story about something the kids had done that day. Something definitely changed, but I wasn’t sure what it was. I was sure that it was good, but at the same time, I didn’t know if it was real or permanent, and if I could trust it.

On top of being able to hear Karla, something else drastically changed, and now I could hear God too. I have since learned that what happened was that Karla had really and truly “let me go.” Yes, I could now hear God and He was talking to me. Sometimes He talked to me in a dream. And sometimes He talked to me through our kids, but a lot of times, He talked to me through Karla. Little did she know that I was listening to her like I had never listened to her before. I watched her very carefully too; she seemed so peaceful. And I had to know if I could believe what I was seeing and hearing.

Many times during our marriage, and even during our separation, Karla would say “You just have to trust God, and He will work out the details.” or “Trust God and leave the consequences to Him.” She wasn’t saying that to me, but in reference to herself or a situation. And at one point, she said one of those two things and something happened. I could not get it out of my head. It was like someone had engraved it in my brain. I kept saying it to myself over and over again and thinking “What did she mean when she said that? What does that mean?” I know there was at least one night where I did not sleep, because that was all I could think about. Then one day, it hit me; God wanted me to trust him with my marriage, and if I did, He would work it out, even if I could not see how He would do it. Of course, I know now that God was speaking to me, and He wasn’t going to stop. I knew God had brought me to the door of marriage restoration, but I had to walk through it, and I had to walk through it myself. There was nothing anyone could do or say to bring me home; yet I felt I was being pulled in that direction, and I knew I had to take that leap of faith and trust Him.

Trusting God enough to walk through that door was the hardest thing I ever did, but it has been the most rewarding thing I ever did too. God has blessed me more than I could have imagined. He has been working out all the details just like He said He would.

I thank God for bringing me to that door, and Karla for letting me walk through it myself. To all of you standing for your marriages, please know that God will bring your spouse to that same door if you let Him. Please pray for your spouse, and if you have not let them go, I urge you to do so; only then will they be able to hear what God has been trying to tell them all along.

God bless you, Russell

The reason “faith” is the first word in the name of our marriage restoration ministry is because if we don’t have faith in God and REALLY believe Him, we won’t live in the righteousness, peace and joy of the Holy Spirit (Romans 14:17) or bear the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23); much less see the SUPERNATURAL manifestation of the full and complete restoration of our marriages and families. And supernatural means just that; something that is beyond and/or exceeds the natural–and marriage restoration is something WE can’t possibly do in the natural; which means that we have to rely on God to do it in the realm of the SUPERNATURAL. That obviously means that we need the favor of God as we stand for the restoration of our marriages, and just as with humans; the way to assure God’s favor is to PLEASE HIM! And according to Hebrews 11:6, …without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. In fact, Hebrews 10:38 takes that a step further and declares…But my righteous one will live by faith. And if he shrinks back, I will not be pleased with him.”

Therefore, as we stand for marriage restoration, it’s very important to understand that the ONLY way to develop and remain in the faith needed to fully access the SUPERNATURAL power of God Almighty is to get serious about reading, studying and understanding His Word, because as Romans 10:17 states, Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word of Christ. So despite devising all sorts of ways to grow in our walk and relationship with the Lord; there is NOTHING more significant to our walk than the Word of God. And though there are many other passages demonstrating how important the Word is to our walk with the Lord and as we stand for the restoration of our marriages, two of my favorites are Luke 6:46-49 and John 15:7, which says If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. So for those struggling with faith and/or obedience while standing on the power and promise of God’s Word for marriage restoration, the most important thing YOU can do is make getting into God’s Word a top priority, because without faith it is IMPOSSIBLE to please God–and You will be totally amazed by how much your life and circumstances change when you do!

Recent conversations about the importance of faith and REALLY trusting God as we stand for our marriages, reminded me of a previous Seeds Of Faith post, Walking by Faith Demands Being Watchful and Giving Thanks!; probably because it was a bit of a departure from my usual post. But it is a good analogy of how we treat God when it comes to remaining faithful no matter what we see or hear in terms of waiting for our prayers for marriage restoration to be answered. So I hope it will really bless and encourage anyone still struggling to stand. And the following message, which Dan posted on the private site this week, points out another important reason our faith is so important and how it makes such a difference in our lives and in the lives of those we love. So put your faith in the Lord, where it is sure to reap a bountiful harvest, and you will indeed be blessed and encouraged!

How our Faith Works Powerfully in our Families by Dan Spitz

This past Sunday, the sermon at my church was on Luke 5:18-26 and was titled the “The Greater Miracle.” The pastor pointed out that it was not the paralyzed man’s faith that impressed Jesus but the faith of his friends. And Jesus responded to their faith and healed the man. Of course there are certainly other messages in that passage of scripture, but the one that spoke to me is that for better or worse, our faith affects other people.

People are watching us, so we have a wonderful opportunity to witness for God. We can’t make another person a believer or follower of Jesus Christ, but we can do much through our words, actions, and love to give him or her a chance to respond to the Lord by the way we live. Just like the friends of the paralyzed man, we can, through our faith, bring them to Jesus and let Him heal them and restore them. We can show that Jesus is God and that He has the power to heal both body and soul. And we have to remember that guilt and shame can sometimes cause more harm and damage than physical illness or paralysis. So let’s expect God to act in our spouses’ and children’s lives; not just because of their faith but because of our faith in His Word and His promises.

(Note from Linda: The FAM members were once again blessed by the following testimony from Stephanie sharing The Prodigal Perspective, which I’m sure will bless everyone standing for marriage restoration and struggling to understand their beloved spouses’ behavior, because it’s such an important message. As Proverbs 19:22 states, What a man desires is unfailing love. …, and understanding that helps us better understand the works of the devil because he very effectively uses that against us and our prodigal spouses. As humans, when we don’t feel loved, we tend to look for it elsewhere and then having found what we thought was love in all of the wrong places, we understandably find it impossible to believe that the person whose love we already doubted could ever forgive and love us again. Yet, men and women standing for marriage restoration all say that they love their spouses more now than ever before, which is something ONLY God can do! But it’s important to note that love is something we DO according to 1 Corinthians 13 and not just words we say, and when we demonstrate unconditional love on a consistent basis, we will see the hand of God move on our behalf and our marriages restored. So let’s learn to show the love of Jesus and we will be blessed and encouraged! Because according to God, love is greater than either faith or hope!)

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Hello my FAMM family! I wanted to write another post because something reminded me of my “prodigal moments” and I feel it’s really important to share with all of you.

I actually felt good about sharing my experience as a prodigal in my last posts, but as I became more and more at peace, the enemy showed up and tried to keep me from sharing again. My husband had stayed with me and our kids for a few days and then started going back to his mom’s, so there were times when I needed to read my own posts for strength. Of course, the enemy told me how terrible it was that I was reading my own posts…how could I help others when I can’t even help myself…and lots of other crazy stuff. At first, I was agreeing with him and feeling really bad, but then the Holy Spirit stepped in and showed me the lie I was being fed. He took me down memory lane and reminded me of all the things the enemy had told me when I was a prodigal. Satan was just up to his old tricks again, but he’s a loser and God is on my side! Praise God!! So I want to use my testimony about the time I was held in Satan’s captivity to help others stand and to glorify God!

The Holy Spirit gently reminded me of the time when as a prodigal, I felt –I had gone too far to be forgiven. And I was convinced that I was unlovable and that there was no way my spouse would take me back. I can assure you all that if your prodigal spouse is not there already, they will be there at some point. The illusion of happiness, contentment and being fulfilled without you, our spouse, is just fleeting and temporary. But then Satan tells us that we’ve gone too far this time and that you would never forgive us. He reminds us of what friends/family might think and that no one will accept us or get past our sin. And he reminds us of how disappointed God must be with us, how unworthy we are to call ourselves Christian (to those of us who are), and how unworthy we are to call ourselves someone’s “husband” or “wife.” (John 10:10) So as prodigals, we begin to not only hate our sin, but ourselves. We don’t love ourselves, so how could anyone else love us?

So when you see our up and down emotions, that’s usually when we are battling our sin and our emotions toward that sin. We don’t know what to do, where to turn, or who to turn to. Surely not God; we’ve turned our backs on him for too long. So where do we go for help; for comfort; for love?

Are you ready, guys–this is YOUR cue. Camera, lights, action—-you’re on–show us! Show us that YOU love us. (Hosea 3:1)
When we believe we’ve gone too far and we don’t know how to get back to you—-SHOW US THAT YOU LOVE US. (Ephesians 2:4-5)
When we have spent countless days/hours hearing Satan’s condemnations and we speak/behave badly towards you (because we are angry/disappointed in ourselves)—-SHOW US THAT YOU LOVE US. (Psalm 86:15)
When we indicate or tell you that we don’t love you (because we don’t love ourselves and can’t imagine why you would)—-SHOW US THAT YOU LOVE US. (Psalm 36:5)

By doing that, you are the reminder of God’s love that we so desperately need. So show your spouse the love of Christ within you. That is what your prodigal sees that makes them look at you with awe, with delighted confusion, and amazement. How can you love us (the prodigal) considering everything we’ve done? What they don’t realize is that it is not you alone; it is Christ within you. (John 15:9 and 1 John 4:4)

He has brought us all to this journey to show us how much he loves us. He has changed our hearts and has given us an unshakable compassion and love for our spouses. Why? And why the spouse that has hurt us so deeply? Because YOU are the ONE FLESH partner and you are no longer two people but ONE!!! (Matthew 19:5) YOU are the one who holds HIS PROMISE and COVENANT! God knows what is happening on the other side of the mountain. He knows the situation your prodigal is in and He hears the destructive and hurtful lies the enemy is speaking to your spouse. So God uses YOU, the person he created for your spouse to INTERCEDE for him/her. God does not want your spouse to be deceived by Satan, so your stand is two fold; for yourself and your closer walk and obedience to God and for your spouse and their deliverance and salvation or return to the Lord. You are the divine part of your spouse that God will use to show them that they are not so far gone that God’s love can’t bring them home. Please, there is no one else that we really trust to show us love more than YOU (not even the NCP). And one day your marriage will be restored and you will get to share with your spouse all about God’s love!!!

With all my love,
Stephanie

P.S. Even if your spouse is not with an NCP, your command to love still applies!

(Note from Linda: Teresa shared the following post on the private site today and it really is such an important message for everyone standing for marriage restoration! God does NOT want or expect us to be idle as we wait for HIM to work out the restoration of our marriages. And my experience in marriage restoration ministry has shown me repeatedly that the more dedicated we are in preparing ourselves for marriage restoration and understand that our stand is for His purpose and for His glory, the sooner we see Him move SUPERNATURALLY on our behalf! God never expects us to just mark time while we idly wait for a miracle to take place; that brings no glory to the Lord and does nothing to prepare us for the work He has purposed and planned for us. So this is a very powerful testimony and something everyone standing for marriage restoration really needs to take to heart as we consider how it can be applied to our lives. As Rick Warren so famously wrote It’s not about you! And the more we make it about us, the further from marriage restoration we remain. So let’s get up every day and ask God what HE wants us to do for Him and His kingdom that day, and be prepared to be blessed and encouraged as He pours His blessings out in our lives and in the restoration of our marriages!)

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Hi FAM Family. I have had a post brewing in me for a couple of days, so I decided to sit down and write it this morning. I was listening to a testimony the other day of a woman who spent the first half of her life in the muck and mire of life. She began using drugs in high school and that continued to the point of losing every job she had. She worked in radio and television, but went to work high every day. She then started a band and her drug use was even too intense for the band and they left her. She also had intense rage in her life, so people would always leave her. She got to the point where she was cooking her drugs and selling them. And then she would do her own collecting when payment wasn’t made, which was a very dangerous thing as she dealt with big time biker gangs. And she ended up in a war with them and they were trying to kill her. And after many arrests over the years, a judge finally said no more bail…you are going to prison. And she was sentenced to thirteen years.

While in her cell the very first night, the Holy Spirit came upon her and she prayed in the Spirit for several hours. As time went on, she began reading the bible and she read it through three times in four months. So she began ministering to the other inmates, which was quite a testimony since she did nothing but fight and cause trouble in the beginning.

She then shared a revelation she had one day, while reading one of our favorite scriptures, which was Jeremiah 29:11. Earlier in that passage, the Lord told the captives to build houses, plant gardens and eat of the fruit; to have families and increase there numbers. And He said to seek the peace of the city where He CAUSED them to be carried away too and pray to the Lord for it; for in its peace you will have peace. What God showed her was that while we are in “captivity” so to speak, he wants us to grow, live, learn and to have peace because He has caused these things for His purpose. He uses these times to prepare us for the purpose He has for us. And she began to rejoice in being imprisoned because she realized this was the training ground for the rest of her life with God. Now she travels all over the world and speaks to thousands of “captives” in prisons. She understood that the “captive” part of her life was so essential for the work God wanted to do in her and through her.

So it is of the utmost importance that we really examine our hearts and ask God to show us our motives for our stand for marriage restoration. Do we want our marriage restored because we are lonely? Or because we feel shamed that we are single or perhaps like failures? Do we want it for financial security, or any kind of security for that matter? The only secure thing in this life is Jesus Christ. And we are where we are for a reason and God wants our motives to be His motives only. Look at how this ministry and others like it are growing. He is raising up a people who will speak His truth in a very relative world. And we are those people. He is commissioning us for His mighty work and we need to be VERY focused and realize that this is our training ground. It does NOT matter what are spouses are doing or not doing; they are God’s responsibility and He is more than capable of handling them. We must focus on our responsibility and learn and be faithfully committed to everything God is asking of us. He knows we will falter at times, but He has all that worked out in His plan and it is all factored in as well. He loves us and is gracious and patient with us. All He wants is for our hearts to be open and willing and He will do the rest. So let’s take the peace that God has for us and look through eyes that are eternal and not temporal.

I love you all so much and praise God for you. In Christ’s love, Teresa

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Jeremiah 29:4-14 – This is what the LORD Almighty, the God of Israel, says to all those I carried into exile from Jerusalem to Babylon:
5″Build houses and settle down; plant gardens and eat what they produce. Marry and have sons and daughters; find wives for your sons and give your daughters in marriage, so that they too may have sons and daughters. Increase in number there; do not decrease.
Also, seek the peace and prosperity of the city to which I have carried you into exile. Pray to the LORD for it, because if it prospers, you too will prosper.”
Yes, this is what the LORD Almighty, the God of Israel, says: “Do not let the prophets and diviners among you deceive you. Do not listen to the dreams you encourage them to have. They are prophesying lies to you in my name. I have not sent them,” declares the LORD.
This is what the LORD says: “When seventy years are completed for Babylon, I will come to you and fulfill my gracious promise to bring you back to this place. For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you,” declares the LORD, “and will bring you back from captivity. I will gather you from all the nations and places where I have banished you,” declares the LORD, “and will bring you back to the place from which I carried you into exile.”

(Note from Linda: Dan shared the following on the private site today, and the line he chose for the title is one of the most profound and powerful messages for every Christian I’ve ever heard. So I hope and pray that it’s one we will all take heed to and learn to rely on as we continue to stand on the power and promise of God’s Word for the full and complete restoration of our marriages and families, which we obviously can’t really do without KNOWING the Word of God! And to the extent that we do, we will indeed be blessed and encouraged!)

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I just finished reading The Wonderful Spirit Filled Life by Charles Stanley. And as usual, I had an earlier discussion with someone last night about a particular topic, and God sent a clarification and message concerning our conversation. I want to share an excerpt from the book, which deals with unbelieving spouses; but more importantly, the fact that God has sent us His Word to guide and direct us in all we do. And the message is loud and clear, as Dr. Stanley points out, that the Bible is the mind of God in print and “It holds the keys for attaining and maintaining real success.” The Bible is the Holy Spirit’s most objective way of communicating with His people. He states, “If you want to know what the Holy Spirit thinks about something, read the Bible. It is the only way to know anything about Him. There is NO substitute.”

We are standing, not just for our marriages, but in obedience to the Word of God, who will be glorified by our stand and the restoration of our marriages. Be encouraged and blessed.

Dr. Stanley shared the following story:

“A man came into my office one summer and told me the Spirit had led him to divorce his wife. When I asked why, he said it was because she was an unbeliever. She was hindering his spiritual progress. He had prayed and prayed and finally received peace about filing for divorce.
I picked up the Bible, turned to 1 Corinthians 7, and read him these verses:

If any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, let him not send her away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through the
believing husband. ! Corinthians 7:12-14

He assured me he had read the verses. Then he assured me that God had released him of his obligation to his wife. He was wrong. How could the same Holy Spirit who moved Paul to instruct believing husbands to remain married to their unbelieving wives turn around and tell this man to do something different?

We must always allow the Word of God to stand as judge over our thoughts, feelings, and impressions. When we feel impressed to do A but the Word of God says to do B, we better do B. No matter how strongly you feel that the Holy Spirit is leading you, remember, the Holy Spirit will never lead you where the Word of God forbids you. Never! There are no exceptions.”

(Note from Linda: I couldn’t believe it when I logged on to the private site earlier today and read the following message from Diane! I had actually forwarded today’s Small Straws message from Marsha Burns to several FAM members who I knew were really struggling, so this is a very timely message. And if so many in our family are struggling, I have no doubt that many visitors to the site who are standing for marriage restoration are as well. So please take Marsha’s Small Straws message, along with Diane’s wisdom and encouragement to heart and I’m sure you will be blessed and encouraged in our Lord Jesus!)

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SMALL STRAWS IN A SOFT WIND by Marsha Burns –February 4, 2009:

I speak to those who have encountered recent situations and circumstances that have set up unseen roadblocks. You seem to have gotten stuck and do not feel like you can advance. This is because you have allowed these things to cause you to see yourself as overwhelmed and failing. But, I say to you, this is not the truth. This is a tactic of the enemy to frustrate and even embarrass you. Rise above your feelings of being blocked into the realm of the spirit and resist this attack, and purpose to move ahead, says the Lord.

Philippians 3:13-14 “Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”

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Wow, I just read this and had a post coming to me all day and this just confirms it. God continues to amaze and lift me up. Things with my family and me are great and God continues to bless us in so many ways. So I pray that everyone will stand firm on God’s promises for their family and trust and believe that nothing is too hard for God.

I have been reading many messages about our attention being on God’s promises, and to keep His word in front of our eyes and in our ears until we see it coming to pass with the eyes of our spirit. We need to speak as though it is already here and to keep focusing on what God can do and not what we may or may not see. Nothing intimidates our God; nothing is bigger than Him. We need to remember that through Christ we can do all things, and that includes everything that we might have to walk through now. We have been given an assignment from God to do this and when He calls us to do something, He gives us everything we need to do it. And we cannot keep thinking that we can’t get through it or that we might not have heard God; we have to keep believing that He can and will restore all families. What He has done for one He will do for all. He doesn’t set us up to fail; He has not lost a battle yet.

Romans 5:2 says that we have access by faith into the grace of God. Therefore, stand by faith believing for your marriage, your family and the salvation of your spouse. Dare to believe God’s word and be the light in this dark world for families everywhere. People are watching and waiting to see how God does this and they are watching our attitudes as we walk through this. I can tell you that in time you will see the victory, and you will have the best that God has planned for you. So don’t let the devil steal, kill and destroy all that God has planned.

You need to let go of any bad attitude or talk that comes to you, you have to choose to be joyful even if you don’t feel joy. You need to get the spirit of faith to believe even when the devil is trying his best to defeat you. He still even tries to get me to believe that God has left me to fend for myself now, but we all know that he is a liar and a loser. The bible says in 2 Corinthians 4:13 that we believe, therefore we speak. So it stands to reason that if you want those circumstances to change, you have to have faith, in your heart and your mouth. Call those things that aren’t as though they are and believe God can restore your dead marriage and give you beauty for the ashes. This is a time for looking forward to what God is doing and not back at the pain of the circumstance. God is moving those mountains and He will complete the job; just believe and do not give up. LOOK UP and BELIEVE. Nothing is bigger than our God. Do not let fear steal away the victory God has in the works for you. Keep asking God to show you what He wants you to do and know that He is always faithful to be right there walking beside you.

I pray that this week you will write out God’s promises–they are for you, and remember all that He has already brought you through. He will never leave you nor forsake you. God loves you!

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(Note from Linda: Lorraine’s Coffee Break devotional this morinng is such an important message for everyone standing for marriage restoration, because we all have to choose whether or not we are going to look at the circumstances and problems surrounding us or keep our focus steadfastly on the power and promise of God’s Word! As we know and written about in a previous Seeds Of Faith post, Keeping our Eyes on Jesus; when Peter was walking on the water, he was looking at and obeying Jesus, but the minute he started looking at the storm around him, he began to sink. And that’s the same way it is with us as we stand for our marriages and families! So let’s keep our eyes on Jesus and be blessed and encouraged as we trust and obey Him and see His majesty, glory, power and promises fully manifested in our lives and in the full and complete restoration of our marriages!)

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“At that day shall a man look to his Maker, and his eyes shall have respect to the
Holy One of Israel.” Isaiah 17:7

Have you ever wondered why two cars driving on a straight road with no obstruction and clear visibility would collide with one another? We are told that it’s because they were each looking at the oncoming car and veered in the direction they were looking. When driving, or walking, you will go in the direction you are looking. If you look to the left you will start going to the left. If you look to the right you will start going to the right. If you are looking straight ahead you will go straight. This is a natural principle that holds true spiritually as well. That is why it is so important to be careful where you are “looking”.

The Bible says that Lot looked at the plains of Sodom and went in that direction. After he kept looking at the city of Sodom he wound up going into the city. David looked in the direction of Bathsheba and wound up committing adultery. Lot’s wife looked back at the judgment of Sodom and was judged. The disciples kept looking at Jesus and went in the direction He was going. Jesus looked in the direction of the will of the Father and went in that direction- to the cross.

We must keep looking to the hills where our help comes from. We must keep our eyes on the prize that is set before us. We must keep looking to Jesus the Author and
Finisher of our faith. We must keep looking with expectation for that glorious appearing of our Savior. We must look to the One who is able to do exceeding abundantly above all we can ask or think. We must look at the One who is our hope, our redemption,
our healer, our deliverer, our Savior and our soon coming King. We must keep our eyes off the world, the desires of the flesh, the devices of the enemy, the ways of men. We must keep them upon the Lord, His word, His promises, His will. We must be careful of where we are looking because that’s the direction we will start heading.

Have a great day. If you look at the world you will go the way/direction of the world. If you keep your eyes on Jesus you will go the way/will of the Lord.

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What a glorious and wondrous way to start off the New Year…WITH THREE SUDDENLY RESTORED MARRIAGES!!! And there’s no doubt that more will manifest very soon based on the awesome praise testimonies shared on the private FAM Fellowship site over the past few weeks and days! So, since we know that the devil is defeated, overcome and hurled down by the word of our testimonies (Revelation 12:10-11), I thank all three FAM members for their permission to share much of their Restored Marriage Testimonies and some of their After Marriage Restoration Testimonies here; which I believe, hope and pray will be a great source of enlightenment, support and encouragement for every man and woman standing for marriage restoration. Our God IS faithful and He will do EXACTLY what His Word promises when we just trust and obey! So be blessed and encouraged as you share in the joy and amazement of these families and remember that God is NOT a respecter of persons, and what He does for one, He will do for all! This will be VERY long, but I don’t really think anyone will mind that much! ?

The following Restored Marriage Testimony was posted by Becky on January 20th, and it came after a lengthy divorce process in which her husband was hindered at every turn, which ONLY happened by the hand of God considering the no fault divorce laws of their state!

My Husband is HOME!!!

I have wanted (and often started) to share what God has been doing for quite some time now, but things have been happening so quickly that it’s been hard to keep up with it all! I hardly know how to begin, but my husband is home now after being separated for over a year and a divorce process that was miraculously stopped on numerous occasions by the Hand of God. God has made a way where there was no way. And He has done for me what I could not do for myself, and I am so thankful for what He has done and what is to come.

It’s funny how we imagine how restoration is going to happen, and then when it happens, it is nothing like we expected and thought it would be. After obvious signs that his heart was softening, my husband just called last week to tell me he wanted to come home. I had always envisioned some “big bang” effect where SNO (spouse name omitted) would have a dramatic encounter with God, fall to his knees in repentance and be instantaneously changed. That would have been nice, but God’s ways are definitely not our ways!

Thank God for the things I have learned in this ministry over the last year and that I welcomed my husband back unconditionally. But I have to admit to being very nervous about it; especially since he is still dealing with some of the same issues that led to the breakup of our marriage to begin with. Yet, I felt in my spirit to love him unconditionally and now I have the opportunity to put into practice the things I have been learning about being a submissive wife with a quiet and gentle spirit, and truly loving and accepting him unconditionally as Christ loves us. And even if my husband does not obey the word, I know that without a word he may be won by my conduct. Wow, that is a tall order, but I am praying and asking God to strengthen me to be the wife I need to be; the wife I am called to be.

Sadly, many counselors (including Christians) would insist on placing stipulations and conditions when our spouses return. In fact, I told a church leader on Sunday that my husband was home now and all she had to say was, “You did make stipulations, didn’t you?” Thank God that HE doesn’t put us on “probation!” As I sat and read my Bible, the Lord led me to Colossians 3:12-15 (NKJV), which says Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. And the commentary portion of my Bible describes Forgiveness as follows: “Forgiveness is made possible through Christ, who forgave us. It is an act in which one person releases another from an offense, refusing to enact the penalty due him or her, refusing to sustain consideration of the cause of the offense, and refusing to allow that offense to affect the relationship. Such forgiveness releases one from a sense of unresolved guilt, restores a clear conscience, and restores relationship. To forgive is not to condone the sin as acceptable, to say it made no difference, or to license repetition of it. Rather, forgiveness is a choice, a decision made to no longer hold an offense against another person.”

… I am so very thankful for this ministry and the encouragement it brings in how to stand for our marriages. I truly believe that if we will follow the principles we learn here, we will have the marriages God intends for each of us to have. I will speak life into my marriage, and I will reject the negative thoughts and anything that is contrary to God’s word!

I’d also like to share what the Lord showed me leading up to the return of my husband. As I shared recently, God led me to read Nehemiah and Ezra about the rebuilding of the walls of Jerusalem. Ezekiel 22:30 says, So I sought for a man among them who would make a wall and stand in the gap before Me on behalf of the land, that I should not destroy it, but I found no one. So we are called to make a wall and stand in the gap–interceding for our loved ones.

In Nehemiah 4 (NKJV), the wall is being rebuilt in spite of great opposition, and in verse 7, those who opposed the restoration of the wall became very angry that it was being restored and that the gaps were being closed. Likewise, the enemy is not at all happy with the restoration of our marriages and families. And as revealed in verse 8, he tries to confuse us and make us question what we are doing and our ability to do it. But we learn from verse 9 that the right response is to continue standing in the gap for restoration and to continue praying and set a guard against the tactics of the enemy. So we have to put on the whole armor of God to withstand the wiles of the devil. This passage also reveals that the enemy works through discouragement and threats, but as Nehemiah declared; we can’t be afraid of what the enemy is doing, and have to keep our eye on what God is doing!!! If God be for us, Who can be against us? And just as He did then, God will bring the plots of the enemy to NOTHING! As Isaiah 54:17 (NKJV) says, ”No weapon formed against you shall prosper. And every tongue which rises against you in judgment, You shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness is from Me,” Says the Lord.

So I am determined that through the strength of the Lord, “I’m not coming off the wall.” No matter what tactics the enemy uses, I will remain at my post–a watchman on the wall, and I will continue to stand until I see complete restoration and deliverance as my Lord has promised. We are called to stand in the gap and as we encourage and admonish one another, the enemy will not be able to stop us and the wall will be completed in Jesus’ name and our families will be restored!

So I humbly ask for all of your prayers during this restoration process. Please pray that I mirror the love of God to my husband and will not be distracted by the tactics the enemy would like to use to get me off the wall–especially now.

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Then Becky posted the following seven days later, making it very clear why it’s so important to continue seeking support and encouragement AFTER MARRIAGE RESTORATION, and she has had to pass some BIG tests since that time. But she’s NOT coming off the wall and God is blessing and rewarding her mightily! And as with all of our After Restoration testimonies, sharing her experience and insight has truly been a blessing to other FAM members as well.

Thank you all for your Prayers, Support and
Encouragement!

I just want to say how much this ministry and all of you mean to me. SNO has been home for eleven days now! And I know for certain without the support of this ministry, I would not be prepared. I knew the real challenge would just be beginning, and it has, but my Lord is helping me to do what I was unable to do in the past.

Our first challenge was when my husband had been home just a few days and he announced that he wanted to go back to the other house to say goodbye to his friends. I was not happy about that and quite honestly I laid awake all night in anger and bewilderment wondering if this was going to work. I thought about just telling him if he was going to do that, he might as well take his things with him. Thank God, I did not take the bait! And when the time came for him to leave, I remained calm and surprisingly at peace. I prayed the whole time for him and actually enjoyed a little rest as things have been such a whirlwind since he came home. And I ended up falling asleep early. The next morning, I got up for church and noticed that he had left me a message on my phone that night saying that he was missing me. I just cried. And after church he had called to tell me he was on his way home. I welcomed him home and asked no questions and made no comments, which is a first for me! And we had a pleasant remainder of the day. I’m so thankful I didn’t shoot from the hip.

He called me yesterday at work and asked me to call my attorney and ask him to prepare the papers to have the divorce dismissed! I actually hated to call him as that is a part of my life I don’t ever want to think about and I didn’t want to hear any lecture or warning from him that I am making a big mistake. I did call and tell his secretary what I wanted and she told me she would have him call me.

Then later in the evening, SNO told me he is concerned that maybe we are moving too fast and wonders if it was a mistake to come home. And he was sullen for the remainder of the evening. When we got up for work this morning, he began to tell me his concerns and asked if I knew what I was getting into. He began to tell me that he had no intentions of giving up drinking; that he was not an alcoholic and all that stuff and that he didn’t want to fight with me. He wants his marriage to work, but he just doesn’t want to fight. Instead of giving him a lecture and arguing with him that he shouldn’t be drinking, I just told him that I will leave that between him and God and I am not here to be his judge. After that, things began to lighten up.

Now, saying that is one thing and practicing it is another. So I’m praying diligently for wisdom and an abundance of the fruits of the Spirit and to just concentrate on what I need to do and leave him in the hands of God. I keep reminding myself that God is big enough and capable enough to speak to him and tell him what he needs to do. And I remind myself of 1 Peter 3:1, which says Wives, likewise be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives. God doesn’t need my help. In fact, I more than likely have been the obstacle by interfering and playing Holy Spirit. Actually when I think about it, I think it’s a pretty tall order just making sure I do what God wants me to be instead of obsessing on SNO.

Mark, I took your advice about the book “Love and Respect” and I ordered it and should have it any day now.

Thank you for all the words of encouragement, prayers and admonition. I feel so inadequate in myself to make these changes, but Paul said, When I am week, then I am strong so I will trust in God’s mighty power to transform me.

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Since Romans 4:17 encourages us to SPEAK things that are not as though they are, we believe in the importance of claiming our marriages restored before the actual manifestation in the natural realm when it’s obvious that our spouses’ hearts have turned back to us. And the following praise testimony from MNO (member name omitted), which was posted just a little over a month ago demonstrates the power of that and the importance and power of walking in humility and NOT leaning on our own understanding.

Praise God for MIRACLES!

WOW, I am so excited to type this right now, I am nearly shaking! God is SO good!! Praise God!

… When SNO moved out of the house, he agreed to continue paying me for his share of the household expenses. He usually stops by twice a month to drop off his checks. I was not expecting him to stop by until later this week, so I was surprised when I received a text message from him this evening asking if he could stop by to drop off his check. And as he was writing out the check, he started asking me about how to handle the finances in 2009. He does not feel that he should continue paying me the same amount as he is no longer living here.

My heart sank because I knew this conversation was coming soon. … He agreed that he will still pay me for his car and phone expenses, but he wants to reduce the amount he pays for the mortgage, utilities, and other household-related expenses. He said that his brother is moving into a smaller apartment next month, so he has found a new apartment for himself that he will be moving into at the beginning of February. He will not have the money to pay for his apartment and to continue paying me. I have comfort because I know that this is all part of God’s plan, He is in control. SNO can make all of these plans, but it will be God who directs his steps.

The “old” me would have tried to argue with him and justify why he should still be paying what he is paying me. His thoughts were posed as questions to me, as though he were looking for guidance. But my only response to his concerns was to ask him what his thoughts were and that he should do what he felt he needed to do. That part of the conversation ended with him requesting for me to give him a breakdown of the expenses so he could decide what he should pay me each month.

Then he brought up the attorneys. Ouch. We have not discussed divorce or legal separation for almost two months now. But he wanted to know where we stood with that. I was honest with him and told him that I have spoken to four separate attorneys and met with two of them in person. And the final consensus was that there was no benefit to getting a legal separation. I told him that for that reason I had dropped it because I knew that we have a mandatory separation period in our state before we can divorce. … He proceeded to tell me that we can start the paperwork soon. The subject was changed and was never brought up again.

He then went into the spare bedroom to pick up a few things. While we were in the bedroom, he told me that I can donate all of his clothing to Goodwill and that he has already purchased everything new. He said that he will eventually come back to go through everything, but he basically told me that he didn’t really want anything from our house. He also told me that he is planning to sell his bicycles. This broke my heart because those bicycles used to be his prized possessions up until a year ago. He was an avid cyclist and spent countless hours riding and racing those bikes, not to mention working on the bikes.

Despite everything that I mentioned above, the night was an overall good night with lots of catching up and laughing – BUT it got better! Before he was getting ready to leave, God nudged my heart and I knew this was the night to ask my husband for his forgiveness. I asked him if I could share something with him and he said yes. I had to pause for a minute or two because I felt myself getting emotional. But I managed to squeeze out an “I’m sorry.”

Then, it ALL came out. I told him that I am sorry for not being a good wife and for letting him down. I told him that I am sorry that I was so controlling with everything and that I did not give him the respect that he deserves. I apologized for shutting him out during the miscarriage. I told him that I get it now and that I don’t blame him for leaving! I also told him that I knew that my apologies do not change anything, but I wanted him to know that everything I was saying was coming from the bottom of my heart and that I love him no matter what happens. But I told him that I want to be his wife. I want to be the wife he deserves. We both started crying.

We held each other for a very long time and there were lots of tears. He kept telling me that there was no reason to apologize, that he was the one who is sorry. He told me that he should have been here for me and that he should not have walked out the way he did. He told me that he is very confused and that he has had many breakdowns. He told me that he misses me so much and told me that “you have no idea that you are the best.” He said that shortly after he left, he panicked because he realized what he had done and he didn’t know how to “undo” it. When we were holding each other, he told me that it felt so good. PRAISE GOD!

He also told me that it has been very hard for him to come over to the house because this is still “home” for him. He said he was very impressed with how I kept the house up (Christmas decorations, etc) during his absence, and that when he first saw the Christmas tree, it broke his heart because he wasn’t here for it. He also told me that he has noticed EVERYTHING, right down to the new earrings I have been wearing. I am wondering if I am living a dream right now! Praise God!

…He wanted to stay for the night, but this is the only night that he couldn’t because he has an important early meeting tomorrow morning and needed his suit. The night ended with me asking him if I could take him to dinner tomorrow night and his response was that he would really like that and he will contact me tomorrow. Praise God! I also want to praise God that his cell phone kept going off, but he didn’t take it off his hip once!

I give God ALL the glory, honor, and praise. When I first learned that he was coming over tonight, I prayed to God for a miracle and He certainly gave it to me.

I thought I might add that as I was driving home from my mom’s house last night, I passed a truck with one word displayed on the side, “steadfast”. I felt like this was a word from God. As I thought about it more, I slowed down and let the truck pass me. Sure enough, it said “steadfast” and then I noticed that the Bible verse John 3:16 was displayed on the back. Yes, God was speaking to me and telling me to be steadfast. I hear you God! I did not fully understand it last night, but today my thoughts were definitely under attack. And the word that kept me going was “steadfast” because I knew it was a specific message from God. We all must have unwavering faith.

All I can say is Praise God! He is in control! He has definitely been working on the other side of the mountain and I know He is going to complete all of the good work He has started!!

Linda, after we talked, I prayed and meditated on everything that has taken place, and I would like to faithfully claim my marriage as restored. So please move our names over there to the RESTORED MARRIAGE list! I have put all of my trust in God to complete what He has started. I know that He is not a half-way God;, He is the God of complete restoration!

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And four weeks later, with little contact from her husband in the meantime and numerous trials and tests, MNO posted the following praise testimony! She has known about the NCP from the very beginning, but her husband was not aware that she knew. And when the NCP started calling her and sending her email messages confirming what she already knew, MNO did NOT take the bait and still didn’t say anything to her husband until she felt led to do so that night. As it turns out, the only reason he was hesitating to come home was because he was afraid of how she would react when and if she found out! God is just SO good!

My Husband is now HOME!

I continue to lift my praises up to God for all of the miraculous work He is doing in this ministry. The sermon at church on Sunday was on praising God in all things and praising Him for victories, even before the victories have been revealed to us. So we should always sing and SHOUT out to the Lord!!

God has been doing a lot in the restoration of my marriage and He deserves all the glory, honor, and praise! Things have been happening quickly, and I am excited beyond words to share some praises with everybody. I apologize for not posting sooner, as I have been struggling a little bit with time management.

My husband is now HOME!! PRAISE GOD!! When we apply God’s word, the enemy will always be defeated!

I posted last week that I felt the Holy Spirit telling me to get our house ready and I admit that I did not move as quickly as I should have. But it all worked out because SNO and I had a great time on Sunday re-organizing closets, cleaning, and donating some old clothing to Goodwill. And I think he is excited about actually having closet and drawer space in our bedroom. This is embarrassing to admit, but I have always taken up all the space in our room, forcing him to keep his clothing in the spare bedroom. So it’s about time that our bedroom becomes “ours!”

It is awesome how God works and how He orchestrated everything that led to our restoration. God used something that brought so much strife into our relationship in the past to ultimately pull us back together. …

The enemy really does attack furiously before a big battle is won. On Saturday night, SNO informed me that he would be moving into his parents’ house, instead of moving back home. That news hit me like a ton of bricks because it seemed to me that all of the lies and deception that the enemy had been feeding me in the days that led up to that moment were coming alive and it completely contradicted SNO’s actions. So I started questioning everything in my mind. I was very upset and although I tried to hide it from SNO, I am sure he noticed. A part of me felt like I should not have done this, but I gave in and brought up the NCP.

Without accusing him of anything or giving him details, I mentioned to him that I had received a few interesting e-mails from the NCP. He was surprised because he didn’t know that she had contacted me, but he seemed very relieved and he even thanked me for bringing it up. He said that he wanted to discuss it with me, but he didn’t know how to bring it up. I praise God that He gave me this opportunity to tell SNO all of the GOOD that has come out of every aspect of our situation. I praise God because he told me that the day the NCP contacted me was the day that he broke things off with her and told her that he would be moving back home with me. I praise God that he told me he can clearly see how much I have changed. I praise God that he told me that he has been telling people that I have been reminding him of the “old MNO,” which I took to mean the MNO he fell in love with.

Even though we had that great conversation, while SNO was sleeping that night, the enemy’s lies consumed my thoughts and I spent time alone crying my eyes out because I felt that things were moving backward and I was questioning everything in my mind; despite many actions and words from my husband that clearly showed he would be moving home.

I attended church on Sunday morning and I praised God for everything! And shortly after I got home, SNO told me that he wanted to spend the day moving back home! HALLELUJAH and thank You, God!!! As we were packing up his belongings and moving them out of his brother’s apartment, I couldn’t help but think of Karla’s post describing all of those boxes as God’s divine erasers. And I can’t even describe the feeling I had when SNO handed his apartment key over to his brother. That’s when it really hit me – SNO is home! God is so good!

And I praise God that my husband has gotten over the worry of “What will people think?” I had not seen his brother for months; yet he gave me a big hug and a kiss on the cheek when he saw me and we interacted like nothing had ever happened. And then I heard SNO tell his friend during a phone conversation that he is working things out with me and he has moved back home! Praise God!!! And what is even more amazing is that I found out later that nobody even knew that we were talking, so he said this is going to come as a shock to everyone. And he said that his brother was probably very surprised when he got home and we were loading up my car with his belongings!!

I know that the enemy is now going to attack even stronger and in ways I probably have not yet encountered, so I am prepared to put on the full armor of God every day. I praise God for the trials that I have been through because He has shown me over and over again that the enemy is so easily defeated when we just lean on Him and not on our own understanding. When I look back to what happened over the weekend, I could have very easily undone so much of God’s good work if I would have listened to my thoughts instead of focusing on God and on what His word says.

Thank You, God!!!

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Then MNO (member name omitted) posted the following testimony and awesome praise over the weekend, and we are all rejoicing with her and her family too, especially since they have two precious little ones! MNO was unfaithful in her marriage and divorced her husband and he initiated another relationship as well. But we have seen the Lord working and transforming both of their hearts in amazing ways! What a powerful example of just why we can NOT afford to lean on our own understanding and why we have to trust God with ALL of our hearts and acknowledge Him in ALL of our ways as instructed in Proverbs 3:5-6! NO matter what we see and hear, we just have to believe and have faith that God is doing and will do EXACTLY what His Word promises!

God Answered my Prayer and I have my Husband Back!

First of all, Linda, I am sorry you are reading this instead of hearing my shout on the phone; it is late and I wasn’t sure if you would be up or not! I AM CLAIMING MY RESTORATION!!!

This week has been a week of uneasiness, confusion and some doubt on my part. I have had every emotion I think possible. I even told God I wasn’t ready because I saw the “Yuk” that I still had in me, and asked Him to break me and change my heart. The enemy has really been at work on me this week, but he gets no more credit than that in this post. This post is dedicated to my God…The God of the universe, the Most High God so Mighty on his throne. My Comforter, Savior, Redeemer, Restorer, the lover of my soul!!! He is so faithful and worthy of my praise! I sit in utter amazement as I try to put into words what my heart is feeling.

After an awful week with what seemed like nothing but conflict with SNO, I even prayed for him not to call me because I was scared of the outcome, BUT GOD turned it all around. Monday is our son’s birthday, so we had his birthday party today at the local park, and God gave us a beautiful day full of sunshine and temperatures that weren’t too cold. Thank you, God.

On Friday, my other son got sick with the virus his brother had last weekend, and I still had lots to do to get ready for the party. But I had to leave work early Friday to pick him up and take care of him. Needless to say, that through a kink into my plans for shopping. SNO had offered to keep him, but my selfishness and pride rose up and I told him I would get it done. I was obviously not being a submissive wife at that time; nor as Linda pointed out, very appreciative. So I took my son home and he slept for several hours and ate a little when he woke up. He held it down, so still being obtuse and hard headed, I took him shopping with me instead of letting his daddy keep him. I know…but God has ways of breaking us!!

We arrived at the Wal-Mart, … and just as we pulled into the parking lot, my son began throwing up again. I got upset and God spoke to me and said, “Why are you upset? You knew he was sick and had someone to keep him.” I knew God was reminding me that my behavior and the consequences were my own fault. I felt awful and now had vomit all in my truck! I cleaned him up and we made a very quick run into Wal-Mart and got what we needed.

… I had not talked to SNO since earlier and only sent him a text to let him know that our son was ok. This morning I only had a few minutes and logged on to FAM. I knew I needed some encouragement after the week I had and knew that I wanted God to be in control of this day. I had not been on long when Linda called me; saying that she just wanted to “check in” with me. But I believe God had her call me for a reason. … Thank you, Linda. I cried and told her I was scared of SNO all of a sudden and I didn’t understand my emotions this week. She reminded me how the enemy was working hard to destroy and steal my peace, witness and testimony, and how he attacks like that right before restoration. So we talked and she helped me a lot! So I prayed as I got dressed that this would be a day that God would orchestrate.

Some of the mothers called me about the party and I got behind on time, so I called SNO and asked if he could help me by picking up the cake and ice cream. He said yes and then went off on me like World War III! Of course, again not being very godly, I went on defense. I had missed a call from him earlier while I was in the shower and didn’t realize it with the other calls coming in and he was upset that I could talk to others, but not him. I tried to explain that I didn’t know he called, but it didn’t matter what I said and then the war was on! I even told him to stay home and I would get the cake! Yep, another not so good. But my God is! He called back and I started not to even answer, but I did and he apologized before I could. I told him I didn’t want to do this and he said he didn’t either.

The party was great, but my husband kept his distance. I tried to offer him food and something to drink or cake and he would only say no thanks or nothing at all and just shook his head. So I prayed for God to take over again. After the party, we all left and I didn’t hear anything from him.

Around 9:00pm tonight, the boys and I were at a gift shop my sister and I own in town, where we’ve been working to get ready for Valentine’s Day. And my sister does not believe in my stand. She does believe in God, but does not understand living by faith at this time and has questioned my stand several times. So she started questioning me about my stand again tonight; asking if I was sure that I had heard from God and saying how she didn’t agree with my beliefs concerning marriage and divorce. She was doing that when there was a knock on the back door. We just looked at each other since neither of us was expecting anyone and she went to open the door. It was SNO and he asked for me. I told her I would be back in a bit and shrugged my shoulders at her because I had no clue what he wanted. I got in his truck and thought we would sit there in the warmth to talk, but he drove off and rode around. He immediately began talking about how he hated his life and how he was living! He said he was tired of the lie and how he had tried to fill the void, but could not. He even said that he loved me! I was crying and kept my mouth shut and praised God while I listened! I thought I was dreaming. This…after this week and this morning!!! Only God! We ended up at my house, which was only a few minutes away and we talked. He said he didn’t know how it would work or if it would, but he was tired of not having his kids and he had tried to make it with someone else and he could not do it. And I didn’t question anything about the NCP. He had already made the statement that he would not question my past and did not want to be questioned about his and I said I would respect that. He did say, while he was holding me, that that part of his life was over. We held each other for a long time. He told me he missed me and asked if I had missed him. He wants to take it slow, which I completely understand. And he asked that I not preach to him and said he wasn’t being ugly, but he didn’t want to hear about God right now. … He told me that he loved me, but there were things that he despised about me too; yet he had fought his feelings as long as he could, and he was at his breaking point. I just listened!! Linda, as you once told me…God sat on my tongue! I couldn’t say a word. After he finished, I did say that I wanted to talk about that one day. He just shook his head and told me how hard it was for him to talk to me. I just sat in tears again and thanked him for sharing with me. Then he said he didn’t want all the tears and sorrys again and to stop and I just chuckled as I was wiping away my tears. We held each other for the first time in what seemed like forever. Only God gets the glory for this miracle!!! He is awesome and I am shouting from my rooftop tonight!!!

SNO is not back in our home YET, but that is coming. He asked me not to say anything to the boys just yet and I agreed if that is what he wanted. I know we are both still healing and have a lot of catching up to do since we have been divorced for three years. So I pray that God will continue the good work that he has begun and that nothing will change our path! I know I still have a lot to learn, but know my father will continue to teach me. Please pray with me that I will say and do the things that only God would have me say and do. My husband is not ready to submit to God, but he is almost ready for the harvest. I feel it and God has already spoken it, so I am just waiting for that to come to pass as well. My God is faithful and worthy of my Praises. I am so excited and wanted to share my miracle with you!!! So don’t give up, give in, or give out!!! It will happen when you least expect it! Believe me; this was the last thing I expected today!

God, I praise you and thank you that you are a God that hears our cry and answers prayers! Thank you for healing hearts and restoring families. I don’t know how, but I trust you and your ways that are higher than mine to complete this restoration and that my husband will be home. Thank you for allowing me to tell him again that my door was open and for the words he spoke of trying to find his way back. God, your word says that you order our footsteps, so I pray that you light SNO’s path to the door you have opened for him; the door to his home, his kids, his wife. May he find the door to walk thru to you and find himself in you and walk in the path of righteousness. May you heal his heart of all the pain. Only you know his heart and know what he needs at this time. Lead me to know what to say and do that will show him you and your love. Continue to change me and transform my heart into what you created it to be! I love you, lord, and will tell the world of your love and faithfulness to your children who know you. Thank you, Father, as I try to put words to the excitement that is in me. Give it to others as they stand; may they have strength to fight and walk in Victory. May you give them a double portion of faith and strength. Yes, this is difficult at times, so help them know that it is so worth it in the end!!! To you, Lord, I lift my hands in worship, my heart in song and now my restored marriage and family to you to complete. As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord today and forever!!! AMEN!

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As you read the above testimonies, please know that when each of these ladies came to the ministry, they either had no contact with their spouses, or next to none, and the contact they had was far from civil and pleasant. BUT we serve a great and mighty God and we need to know and understand that marriage restoration is Not done in the natural; but in the SUPERNATURAL power of our God when we learn to humble ourselves under His mighty hand (1 Peter 5:5-6) and just TRUST AND OBEY Him! As Jesus declared in John 15:5-7… “I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you.